(Closed) SO doesn’t seem to understand wanting a night to myself (long)

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee

I completely understand needing a night to yourself. Sometimes Mr. F works late, and I often feel like a bad girlfriend for being excited about it, but sometimes it is just sooooo nice to grab some junk food, turn on TLC, and snuggle with the puppy on the couch. I really value my personal time to myself. Luckily Mr. F understands because he feels the same way. It’s nice to have your own time to remind you why you love spending time with your SO.

Maybe try explaining to him that it almost like having a girls night..just alone? lol

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I send FI to hockey games and guys night out almsot every friday night. It gives him the time with his guys, and lets me watch the house marathons and sex and the city that he loathes so much. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I’ve always been a pretty private person, but fortunatley so has my guy, so we don’t have this issue as much as I have had with in past relationships. Throughout the week, we each have our nights where we hang out together, and twice a week he does a Raid on WOW with a bunch of his friends. On those nights, I get to do whatever I want and I LOVE it. lol. So I totally understand your thoughts on this. I would just sit your guy down and explain it to him. Sometimes it just feels good to do your own thing without having to worry about if the other person. I think everyone is like this to some extent. That is why you can still maintain your individuality while continuing as a strong couple. I’d just sit down with him and talk it out. Hopefully he will be more understanding once  you explain how you feel. Good luck!!!

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Mr. F and I are recluses. We have each other, and suprisingly neither one of us really has any steady friends, it’s kind of just us two. lol We’ve tried making friends in the past but no one really seems to be similar enough to us to be worth keep up a friendship .

I find that most women my age (23) are still very focused on going out drinking and partying, and that has never been me. I’d much rather be home with a good rented movie and dessert 🙂

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I love RPGs so I probably not much help but..

could you blame it on aunt flow? guys usually don’t seem to fuss with a reason like that, unless they are a nursing student and know how to combat those “issues”.. but thats another story.

Just tell him you are feeling moody cause of your period and maybe he’ll get the idea.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@runnerbeez:  OMG that’s almost exactly what I do – trying to cut the junk food – but SAME thing.  our schedule has a guaranteed time alone when my FH is at drill (military reservist).  I feel terrible looking forward to those weekends, but I do and I know they help keep me sane because I can re-enjoy him being home.

I think you should just talk to him, he should understand.  We all need quiet time alone.  Ask him to try allowing you X # of days a month where you can be alone, relax and not have to worry about entertaining anyone.  I think guys often don’t understand how even if we’re relaxing at home together, we still often want to entertain our guy – “can I get you anything?”  “are you ok?” 

He might understand more than you give him credit for.

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