SO doesn't support weight loss

posted 3 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@misswhereami:  If you’re not underweight, and you don’t struggle with an eating disorder, then I’d just tell your fella, “sweetie, I appreciate the compliment, I really do – but I’d like to do this for ME.  I hope you can understand :)”

Post # 4
1470 posts
Bumble bee

Maybe he’s more attracted to your curvier self and doesn’t know how to tell you so he guises it as trying to boost your self esteem (even though you’re fine!) lol

Just a thought…


Post # 5
8390 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

He also doesn’t like when I’m a little grumpy or hungry

@misswhereami:  I can understand where he’s coming from.  If he loves you for who you are, and that changes when you diet, it would make sense for him to dissuade you from doing it.  Maybe eat healthy/low calorie snacks to prevent you from getting hungry/grumpy.

Post # 6
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@misswhereami:  Is he insecure about his own weight and feels discouraged when he sees how dedicated and successful you’ve been so far?

Post # 7
2367 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@remijp:  I was actually just about to say the same thing! 

Just gently remind him that you’re doing this for YOUR happiness, and you’re not going to force him to lose weight or anything like that.  Also remind him that you’re very happy with him and how he looks.  And then go and rock those favorite jeans!

Post # 10
8850 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@misswhereami:  If your guy is anything like mine, he really truly thinks you’re beautiful just how you are and doesn’t understand why you should deprive yourself to change….  Which is super sweet, but not that helpful for motivation!

Post # 13
1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

He may also consider eating and drinking yummy things to be a fun thing to do together as a couple and he feels that he can’t share that with you anymore and that makes him sad.

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