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Yay Mrs Cheese!!!!! 
Congrats
I say tell them at the 3-4 month mark or when you just can't hide it (ie you are barfing promptly at 8am at your desk every stinkin' day and you're getting the Leery Eye from your coworkers). One girl i went to college was showing SO MUCH at 10 weeks she let the cat out of the bag.
Although part of me think it'd be funny to go up to month 7 and say "no, i just had a big lunch" buah ha ha
Congrats!
Agree with ejs4y8 - 3 to 4 months. Later than that and it might be difficult for them to arrange coverage for you while you're out (if necessary).
Congrats!
I actually did a poll on this recently - most people said around 4 mos. I'm waiting till around 15 weeks because I feel like it's a little bit of a "good news/bad news" thing and it'll be right before the holidays.
I figure that's the longest I can wait since I'll be out for 2 weeks and it may be really obvious when I come back from my holiday vacation (of course I could just claim my love for Christmas cookies got the best of me).
Once you're having trouble hiding the bump I think it's time to come clean (might be earlier for some people). We told family and friends this weekend and there have been a few Facebook posts by them so I want to let my work know before someone inadvertently finds out.
First off, CONGRATULATIONS!
my coworker waited until near the end of her first trimester. A lot can happen in the first trimester so it's usually best to wait out that period to ensure the pregnancy holds (i know, terrible thought), and then you can let the cat out of the bag when you're sure. it's hard enough dealing with any misfortunes with your family, but it's harder with those you work with.
Hooray!
I think you sould tell when you are starting to show, or when you have symptoms that affect your work.
I agree with the 3-4month mark.
If you can, I would have a private conversation with only your direct manager if you start having symptoms (ie, morning sickness) that affects your work.
Um, this was hypothetical. Right. See, I have this friend....
And I (ahem, she) works from home, so theoretically could be big as a house and not have anyone know. That said, it would be irresponsible to my staff and extended teams, so I will tell. After the yearly raises and assignments are concluded. :)
Er, she will.
@cheese - Well, a big congratulations to your...friend :-)
Woohoo! Congrats (to your friend, obviously)
I think I'm in the minority- I told two supervisors very early, around 6 weeks. I'd had a miscarriage earlier in the spring, so I wanted them to have a heads up that I might be crazy and sick and have lots of doctor appointments early on (and lo and behold, I WAS crazy and sick and often at the doctor). I work for a company of probably about 2500 employees, and they're very flexible with parents. I had zero fear of losing my job over this, so that helped. It was nice to not have to worry about hiding it, and I knew that even if we did lose the pregnancy, I'd probably need some time/space to get myself together, so I'd still want to tell them in that case. It probably helps that my supervisor is pregnant right now too :) The last reason I'm glad I did it is that my job can involve international travel, and I did not want them to sign me on to a project that would expect me to go to Ethiopia at 28 weeks pregnant or something.
Ahh!! Cheese, you've long been one of my favorite bees, so I'm really thrilled for... your friend :) Best wishes to you (I mean her!) and your growing family!
Thanks, y'all. You're all very sweet. *blush* Now to continue cramming food into my face in a frantic bid to eat as much as possible before the dreaded nausea kicks in. (hasn't yet! but I'm only five weeks, so I think that's why)
Ahem, so my friend says.
Oh Cheese, congrats! I'm so excited for you!
And as far as telling work, I told sometime after 12 weeks, but I already forgot when...gotta love the prego memory, lol.
Depends on what kind of work you do. I'm a scientist who works with human pathogens and with compounds/possible future antibiotics that haven't been tested in humans yet. So, I need to tell them immediately so that we can chenge my lab assignment to something less hazardous. But if you have a "normal" job, i'd say 3-4 months, unless there are complications before then.
Congratulations!!! So excited for you :) I'm with the others on waiting til the 3-4 month mark, but if doctor's appointments or other things interfere, maybe earlier? But so long as things are normal I think waiting til that point is fine. And especially if you go to them with a plan for how you'd like to proceed re maternity leave and returning, I think that all looks really good.
Congratulations Mrs. Cheese! I told work around 14 weeks, but I was definitely showing by then so I couldn't have waited much longer. Another co-worker who has the same position as me ended up telling work the same day I did (she was only 6 weeks at the time) so they would be able to think about scheduling when we are both out on maternity leave. I think end of first trimester is generally a good time to tell work.
I told my direct supervisor at 6 weeks since we needed to begin transitioning the program I was running and slowly told others around 4 months. The rest found out when I started showing.
And congratulations! I hope the morning sickness either stays away or leaves you alone quickly once it does arrive.
Congrats Mrs. Cheese! I hope your friend is feeling well and has a great pregnancy ;0)
I just told my boss yesterday (I'm 13 weeks today). I only told him now because I'm going to start having lots of appointments in the next couple of weeks and I wanted to be upfront about the reason why. No one else at work will know until after my next ultrasound - next week - assuming everything is okay. (**knocking on LOTS of wood!**)
Congrats!
And I'm a bad employee... Idk why, but I was terrified to tell my boss. So I didn't! He finally figured out what was happening (obviously) and we had a "knocked up" style meeting, without the stupid girl. lol
He just couldn't understand why I hadn't told him...Idk, because it's WEIRD!? lol
YAY CHEESE! Ive been reading your blog and WONDERING what was going on! I kinda had a feeling. CONGRATULATIONS! To your friend of course...
oh, and for the checklist...do you mean whats happening during the pregnancy? I sue babycenter.com and babyzone.com. They will email you weekly with what is happening, and babycenter has a nifty little iphone app
@LoveTheLake: So, funny story: all of the blog babyness was completely unrelated to this. We'd been playing baby roulette (not trying, but not not-trying) and I was convinced I couldn't be pregnant because I wasn't feeling like hurling. Sunday I took a test to appease my husband because I was a day late and he kept singing songs like, "I bet you're knocked upppp! I bet you're knocked uppppp!" Lo and behold, the thing showed two lines immediately.
So it's kind of funny that I haven't actually been trying to be slick about talking about baby fever while secretly knowing I was really pregnant - totally not! And of course now I won't say anything about babies at all on my blog because I'm all suspicious that people know. My brother pings me to ask how I am and I'm like, "Oh! He read my post on WB!"
Um, no. Clearly not secret agent material here.
@jamiemichelle: I agree with the weirdness. The thought of how to even go about having that conversation gives me the heebie jeebies, but I'm strangely personal (all the while oversharing). I hated people "knowing" about my personal life because my name changed when I got married. The people I know well knew, of course, but random coworkers congratulating me just seemed weird.
omg I told everybody and their grandmother the day after my pregnancy test. I was only 4 weeks. lol! my boss started screaming she ws so excited.
Congrats, Mrs. Cheese! This is so exciting!
My boss guessed at 6 weeks because I was puking like 5 times a day... Doesn't sound like that will be an issue for you. :)
@Mrs. Spring: I think I'm too early for the nausea, that's all. I suspect it's coming soon.
I didn't tell anyone at work until they started asking me if I was pregnant! lol. I was hired not even a month after I found out and I didn't want to get fired over it because I said there wasn't anything to stop me from doing my job, when really I couldn't lift heavy things because of the baby but when they found out they were fine with it.
When I get pregnant I'm going to try to wait as long as possible- or until the pregnancy is viable which is 24 weeks.
Just a personal preference- I don't want something to go wrong and then have to tell everyone about it.
Our workplace policy is that you have to tell as soon you know, since some duties are dangerous, but even then most people mention it around 12 weeks.
I had one friend who tried to keep it a secret to the full 12 weeks and attended a residential B&E and had to make a run for it to the victim's bathroom when morning sickness hit. She was so mortified that she let the cat out of the bag that afternoon.
@SapphireSun: Aw, poor coworker. It took me a bit to figure out you must be in law enforcement. For a brief and hilarious second, I thought "Are they thieves?" :)
@cheese: But wouldn't it be nice if you could skip it all together! I'm holding out for you, Mrs. Cheese.
@cheese: I think the same thing about the weirdness. Maybe it would be different in my boss was female but it's kind of odd to go to a male boss who I don't have a ton of contact with and be like "Sooo... I'm knocked up". To me it seems so personal plus it's not like we have one-on-one meetings unless there's some sort of issue. Ugg.
Yeah, who your supervisor is makes a huge difference- my personnel supervisor is due to have her second kid about three months before me, so that was easy and fun (and she's been a great source of recommendations and advice). I told her right away (around 6 weeks). My assignment supervisor was a guy in his fifties who is very nice but a little formal- I waited till about 14 weeks to tell him, and he was kind of like "um, ok... congratulations? Anyway, about that project..."
@cheese: Hehe, that's hillarious. No, we're not thieves... Can't say I've ever met a crime ring that had official parental leave policy :)
I also work from home....so no one is going to notice my bump. I am getting a new boss and wanted to earn their trust first before I spilled the beans and became only remembered as "the pregnant one". But now we have a scheduled a mandatory trip to the office at the end of January, and I'm pretty sure I'll be showing by then. Oh well....it should be fine. We have a family-friendly workplace.
Congrats!! Super excited for you, Cheese!
I agree with a couple PPs that it depends on your works situation...as a high school teacher, I wanted to make sure that my principal & fellow teachers knew as soon as possible so that we could start planning subs & unit plans that can work without ME teaching. I was about 8 weeks on the first day back to work & when we announced ourselves to "introduce ourselves" to new teachers, I mentioned that I got married this summer & was pregnant. It helped a lot with the doc appointments (so much more understanding about leaving with about 10 minutes left in my prep period). And our school just happens to be VERY family friendly (We've got one teacher out on Mat Leave; one working part-time to be a PTSAHM for this school year), so it just made sense to let them know right away.
Everyone at work knew the second that I knew. I own my own business, work out of my home, and am the boss!!! lol!!!!!
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And why can't I find a simple place that gives you a checklist of what happens when? Clearly my google skills aren't up to par. :)