(Closed) So, dumb question: when do you tell your workplace?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yay Mrs Cheese!!!!! Laughing Congrats

I say tell them at the 3-4 month mark or when you just can’t hide it (ie you are barfing promptly at 8am at your desk every stinkin’ day and you’re getting the Leery Eye from your coworkers). One girl i went to college was showing SO MUCH at 10 weeks she let the cat out of the bag.

Although part of me think it’d be funny to go up to month 7 and say “no, i just had a big lunch” buah ha ha

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

After I  told family and friends, when it would become obvious if I didn’t.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Congrats!

Agree with ejs4y8 – 3 to 4 months.  Later than that and it might be difficult for them to arrange coverage for you while you’re out (if necessary).

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Congrats!

I actually did a poll on this recently – most people said around 4 mos. I’m waiting till around 15 weeks because I feel like it’s a little bit of a “good news/bad news” thing and it’ll be right before the holidays.

I figure that’s the longest I can wait since I’ll be out for 2 weeks and it may be really obvious when I come back from my holiday vacation (of course I could just claim my love for Christmas cookies got the best of me).

Once you’re having trouble hiding the bump I think it’s time to come clean (might be earlier for some people). We told family and friends this weekend and there have been a few Facebook posts by them so I want to let my work know before someone inadvertently finds out.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

First off, CONGRATULATIONS!

 

my coworker waited until near the end of her first trimester. A lot can happen in the first trimester so it’s usually best to wait out that period to ensure the pregnancy holds (i know, terrible thought), and then you can let the cat out of the bag when you’re sure. it’s hard enough dealing with any misfortunes with your family, but it’s harder with those you work with.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Hooray!

I think you sould tell when you are starting to show, or when you have symptoms that affect your work.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree with the 3-4month mark.

If you can, I would have a private conversation with only your direct manager if you start having symptoms (ie, morning sickness) that affects your work.

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@cheese: Haha! Good plan.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

I would wait until the 2nd trimester..or 4th month.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@cheese – Well, a big congratulations to your…friend πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

Woohoo! Congrats (to your friend, obviously)

I think I’m in the minority- I told two supervisors very early, around 6 weeks. I’d had a miscarriage earlier in the spring, so I wanted them to have a heads up that I might be crazy and sick and have lots of doctor appointments early on (and lo and behold, I WAS crazy and sick and often at the doctor). I work for a company of probably about 2500 employees, and they’re very flexible with parents. I had zero fear of losing my job over this, so that helped. It was nice to not have to worry about hiding it, and I knew that even if we did lose the pregnancy, I’d probably need some time/space to get myself together, so I’d still want to tell them in that case. It probably helps that my supervisor is pregnant right now too πŸ™‚  The last reason I’m glad I did it is that my job can involve international travel, and I did not want them to sign me on to a project that would expect me to go to Ethiopia at 28 weeks pregnant or something.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ahh!! Cheese, you’ve long been one of my favorite bees, so I’m really thrilled for… your friend πŸ™‚ Best wishes to you (I mean her!) and your growing family!

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