Post # 1
So…my boss got engaged on Christmas day. That’s great and I’m super happy for her. I’m on vacation this week, but I decided to go to the office to bring her some flowers and say congratulations. When I get there she shows me the engagement video her FI made and we ogle the ring, which is MAGNIFICENT. then she says..yeah I’m still shocked…and when I was talking to my FI, I said idk how to tell purpledaisies…she’s gonna kill us. And her FI says, Oh I know right and her man will too. Uh…what? Why would I kill them? because Im so desperate to get married that i can’t be happy for other people who get engaged? Geez, am I that pitiful??
I know she didn’t mean any harm by that, but that must made me feel so bad, like heartbroken that people feel sorry for me. I cried all the way home because the last thing I want is people feeling sorry for me because I’m not engaged. Lesson learned: never talk about my waiting woes in real life anymore. I am so embarrassed right now 🙁
Post # 3
That was an asshole move on her part…don’t let it get you down. My mom always said, “never trust people at work with too much personal info” I guess this is why? I’m sure your boss/friend didn’t mean anything by it, you may want to let her know that you’re really happy for her but that her comment hurt your feelings. There is much more to you than simply “waiting” on a ring!
Post # 4
@mrsgrant: yea I think your mom was right! Sheesh…too bad I’ve been there for years since I was very young and didn’t know better. Everyone is kinda too open with everyone’s personal biz..and I realize that’s not a good thing, but que sera sera….I might have to say something to her though because I’m really wounded by that. Yes, I’m waiting but that would never keep me fom being happy for someone else, especially her.
Post # 5
That’s kind of a dumb thing to say to someone!!
Post # 6
Ha ha ha ha. Next time tell her that you’d only be jealous if it were your SO she got engaged to.
Post # 7
Very tactless on her part. She should be the one embarassed, not you.
Post # 8
@makemake: good point!
@Miss Circe: I thought so too…I suppose I’ll just let it slide
would you ladies mention this to your SO?
Post # 9
@purpledaisies: I wouldn’t say anything to your SO. Since you’re really ‘waiting’ on him, it’s just gonna make him feel guilty and pressured.
Especially if you mention how lovely the proposal was and how gorgeous her ring is- you don’t want to make him feel inadequate!
Post # 10
@rachelmichelle: i suppose you are right! I’ll just keep it to myself, though I may have sent him a pic of her ring, just to show him how amazing it is lol
Post # 11
Ouch! I’m sorry about that, it must have really stung. I’m sure they must not have realized how insensitive the comment was. Either that or she witch.
your time will come. Hang in there 🙂
Post # 12
Thats kinda rude! Just try to let it not get the best of you though. Im sure she didnt mean it how it came out.
Post # 13
Ouch that’s rough. I’m sure she meant it in a kidding way would feel terrible if she knew it hurt you, but it still sucks. If it were me I wouldn’t bring it up to her or your SO, just be the bigger person and let it go (way easier said than done).
If it does come up again then totally use that cute comeback that @makemake: suggested.
Post # 14
UGH! I’m sorry this happened — how annoying, is it so hard to believe you could be genuinely happy for people?? But I agree, I would keep your personal and private info out of the work place from now on!
Post # 15
I think she just doesn’t know when to shut her trap.
I worried that a good friend of mine would feel lonely because of my engagement… it’s a natural worry if you know the person wants marriage him/her self. (And it doesn’t mean I didn’t know she’d be happy for me). But I never brought it up with her. Instead I made sure not to make a big deal out of my engagement around her.
Post # 16
I don’t mean to be unkind and I agree that it wasn’t a nice thing for her to say but if someone said that to me I would be- hmmm am I putting out that desperate vibe? Am I talking non stop about an engagement? I would be thinking that I gave her cause to be concerned about how I would react.
Sometimes as humans we don’t even realise that we are doing it.