- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Just a quick vent… I hear this is a good place for that! haha 🙂
Some background – I’m a huge control freak and SO is tooootally enjoying the fact that I have NO idea when the proposal will happen, no clue if he’s purchased the ring yet (we don’t live together and discuss finances but don’t share accounts), all I know is that it’s coming in the next few months because we discussed that it’d happen before Jan 1, 2014. We’ve been dating a little over 2.5 years (it’ll be 3 years end of December) and actually started looking at rings last fall knowing that he would be in school for his 2nd degree until April, so the ring wouldn’t be on the ‘real’ radar until this summer. We found one we both loved in January, he got the contact info of the girl that helped us because she was awesome, and told her he’d be in touch. From that point on I haven’t been involved apart from us randomly discussing wedding stuff/how excited we are to be taking this step and how awesome it’ll be to begin our married life together.
OK fast forward to now/the past few wks… SO keeps teasing me quite a bit bc he knows I’m going crazy waiting… I know it’s happening but I want to start planning/get our venue booked – I’m not comfortable doing that until he officially asks me and there’s a ring on my finger! We both love the fall, so thinking it’d be Oct 2014. Anyway, the other day I was saying something about this work conference I have to go to Sept 2-8 and they had to move me to a suite because there was a ‘regular room’ mix-up, so of course I’m like hell yeah! And I texted him about it saying too bad I didn’t have more notice (he has a huge contracting job that week) bc it would be nice if he could come along, although it would be even nicer if we had ‘something’ to celebrate (it’s like a 5 star resort) and left it at that – he texts back, ‘we might be engaged by then you never know lol’
……… WTF! so unfair! I was telling my friend, of course he ended it with “LOL”. LOL!?!?!? Stop teasing me and do it already mister, haha! I don’t even know if he has the ring yet, all I know is that he’s been saving but who knows how that’s going….. meanwhile I’m losing my mind! I don’t think he’d say something like that and then actually do it, because it’d be on my radar… but who knows. Apart from this, he’s done the whole ‘bend on one knee look up at me and say now that we’re alone…’ and TIE HIS SHOE while we were on vacation in Ireland a few months ago! I smacked him on his arm and then he was laughing and I couldn’t help not crack up but omg talk about giving a girl a heart attack! GAH!
Any of you ladies dealing with this if you’re waiting, or if you’re engaged- did your SO do anything to drive you crazy!? I can’t help but love him for it because I know he’s totally enjoying being the “one in control” planning the proposal and everything and it’s adorable but OMG occasionally I feel like I’m seriously losing my mind, haha! I think the main thing is that I don’t know if it’s going to happen in the next few weeks or if it’s months away yet… *le sigh* I guess I should just step back, take a deep breath and be happy that we’re so happy together and both excited/ready to take this next step, but it’s totally hard sometimes!