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I think your love and support are what is needed. If he askes you for something or about something, then answer, but like you said, you don't want to plan it! :)
I think no matter what happens, the proposal will be amazing, because, well, he's asking her to share the rest of her life with him!
Good luck to all of you! Have fun! :)
Just be there for her and be helpful when she asks... If she is talking about the wedding you can always say "seriously, let me know if you need any help with anything". Just don't force yourself on her or force any ideas on her. I've had the best time planning my wedding and I have two older sisters (one married) and a mini martha stewart for bridesmaids they have all offered me LOADS of help and feedback on my ideas without feeling like they are overbearing.
And since I'm not using them for too much help yet, I know they will be there to help in crunch time! ;)
I wouldn't give any more advice-- let him come up with the plan! I would be frustrated if someone had changed my FI's mind about doing the proposal a certain way.
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I love my lil sissy, and I'm really excited because I met up with her boyfriend 2 days ago for coffee because he wanted some advice on his proposal! I know she's been waiting on it (they already picked out the ring!) and I'm thrilled to be able to share wedding planning ideas with her.
Here's my question: Where is the line? I want to be helpful, but not overbearing. As the older sis, I have some experience in this and can give him a heads up on certain things. But this is, after all, HIS proposal to HER. I want it to go well, I want her to be surprised. One thing that is driving me crazy is that I am very big into planning, and I feel like he hasn't done enough planning for such an important event. I've been trying to help him out the best I can, but I don't want to overstep / take away from this being HIS. It was just my sis and I for a long time, so I know her likes and dislikes pretty well, which is why he probably came to me.
He of course already has his own ideas, but then I told him my opinion on one thing (doing it with just the two of them instead of with a bunch of people, because I know she's shy and wouldn't want the extra eyes) and I feel like he resented me "changing direction" even though I've told him that what I say is just advice that he can take or leave. Another thing is that he hasn't brought up a photographer or videographer. It's not a necessity, and I'm actually not sure her preference on this specific thing. Should I bring it up or just let him figure out the details he wants himself?
Bottom Line: I care about my sister alot and want her to have the amazing proposal she deserves that her future fiance can be proud to say HE organized. What's expected/required of me in this situation??
HELP!