- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I love my lil sissy, and I’m really excited because I met up with her boyfriend 2 days ago for coffee because he wanted some advice on his proposal! I know she’s been waiting on it (they already picked out the ring!) and I’m thrilled to be able to share wedding planning ideas with her.
Here’s my question: Where is the line? I want to be helpful, but not overbearing. As the older sis, I have some experience in this and can give him a heads up on certain things. But this is, after all, HIS proposal to HER. I want it to go well, I want her to be surprised. One thing that is driving me crazy is that I am very big into planning, and I feel like he hasn’t done enough planning for such an important event. I’ve been trying to help him out the best I can, but I don’t want to overstep / take away from this being HIS. It was just my sis and I for a long time, so I know her likes and dislikes pretty well, which is why he probably came to me.
He of course already has his own ideas, but then I told him my opinion on one thing (doing it with just the two of them instead of with a bunch of people, because I know she’s shy and wouldn’t want the extra eyes) and I feel like he resented me “changing direction” even though I’ve told him that what I say is just advice that he can take or leave. Another thing is that he hasn’t brought up a photographer or videographer. It’s not a necessity, and I’m actually not sure her preference on this specific thing. Should I bring it up or just let him figure out the details he wants himself?
Bottom Line: I care about my sister alot and want her to have the amazing proposal she deserves that her future fiance can be proud to say HE organized. What’s expected/required of me in this situation??