- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I am fairly new to the site, and just got engaged 2 weeks ago to my boyfriend of 6 years! I have been so excited about getting engaged, but now that it’s real and we’ve actually looked at prices I feel sick! Everything is WAYY more expensive than I thought.
My FI and I are 26 and 24 respectively and are living together in an apartment right now. We are trying to save up for a house, so we decided we would only budget $7,000 for a wedding and leave the rest of our savings for a down payment for a house (hopefully next year).
Then, my parents VERY generously told me that they had 20-25k for me to use for my wedding. I thought that was an absolutely ridiculous amount of money to spend for ONE DAY, so I told them I appreciate their help, but there’s no way we could spend that much and my dad just said, ‘ it’s there if you need it.” My FI and I decided that we would take $10,000 from my super generous parents and leave the $7,000 we originally budgeted in the bank.
We’ve been searching around for different venues and the avg price just to use the facilities is $4,000!! Not including food, drinks, dj, etc. I REALLY want to have an outdoor ceremony at a nice venue and a great photographer, but it’s looking like just the venue and photographer alone eats up most of my budget. Adding on food, dj, drinks, and other wedding costs that puts us way over budget. The first venue we looked at cost $19,000 for a FRIDAY night wedding. 🙁
My FI thinks that even though it’s just one day, it’s a really important day to celebrate with friends and family, and it only happens once in your life. He thinks we have adequate saving already, which is true, but i would prefer to have a nicer down payment so we could potentially look at better houses. I am touched that the wedding is so important to him (he got pretty upset when I mentioned eloping,) but I’m finding it hard to come to terms with everything.
It seems like to have a wedding in the $10,000 range, we’ll have to be cheap about everything. (Not getting the type of venue I want, beer and wine only instead of open bar, cheap photographer, etc.) basically just not the wedding I wanted. Everyone says to prioritize, but my top priorities are venue and photographer and they are SO expensive around here. Avg. wedding cost in my area are $35,000 :(.
I am so undecided about whether I should just go for the big day I want even if it means spending way more money than I originally thought, or if we should have a cheap wedding and save my parents the money.
I think I will regret giving up on some of these beautiful venues and talented photographers, but I might also regret spending too much and not being able to get the house I want.
So, what would you do????
Sorry this is so long bees, but I appreciate any advice!