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So far the hardest part about being married is ... sharing. I hate to share!

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    MsHymanRoth    October 24, 2009   Boston

    I do because I love him, but seriously ... I do not like it.

    The scene:

    H yells from the bathroom: Where is that moisturizer ... I need it.

    Me: *silent*

    H: Where is that really nice cream that was here last night?

    Me: Hmm, where could I have put it? (I secretly know where it is, but this is expensive cream for my face that is for me and not you! You don't need it. You're not a woman ... I cannot buy more just b/c you use gigantic GLOBS of it.)

    Me: FINE it's in my __(insert hiding place)__ and use just a little because I hate sharing with you but since we're married and I love you ... I will.

    GAH.

     
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    krissycake    November 21, 2009   orlando,fl

    LOL...you should buy him his own less fancy one so you don't have to share ;)

     
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    MsHymanRoth    October 24, 2009   Boston

    When I found my nice body cream on his nightstand ... I went and bought him a less expensive version ...

    I guess this is what I'll have to do w/ face lotion too.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I agree that you should buy him some less expensive stuff to use so he can glob it on if he wants!

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    buy him his own  not so expensive moisturizer! i have the opposite problem, my fi is having trouble getting the concept of sharing. i have perfectly good lotion that he refuses to use. he went out and bought his own. mine's better, and i'm always trying to make him use it. but he won't.

     
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    jmc    12-12-09   long island city, ny

    This is so funny.  It took my FI a long time to warm up to the idea of moisturizing. Now he does it every day. I don't know if he knows (or cares) that he has his own and I have my special Lady Stuff.

     
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    hellohellohello      

    LOL!  This is very cute.

    My husband and I have a sharing issue with leftovers (although I am probably more like your husband!)  In my family, it was survival of the fittest, and if you put your leftovers in the fridge (especially leftovers from a restaurant), it was fair game for the whole family to eat.  Like, let's say we would go out for steak and bring the leftovers home, the next day you would go to the kitchen and say "mm I can't wait to have my steak for lunch" and my dad would say "haha sorry I already ate it."  For some reason this was a big joke for us.  No hard feelings, we would laugh about it, he would tease me about being "too slow" and that was that.

    Well, obviously that is unusual behavior, but sometimes I can't help myself.  H willl put some leftovers in the fridge and leave them for more than one day... oh it's so hard not to eat them.  Sometimes I will eat half and he will be so sad... I've been trying to stop but...

    Anyway, I understand.

     
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    MsHymanRoth    October 24, 2009   Boston

    Lol. Your leftover issue is too funny. =)  One leftover we fought over most recently was the last slice of my moms famous chocolate cake ... we like took turns sharing bites and I would take two and he'd be like NO FAIR! Lol. It's hard sharing everything!

     
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    MrsK2be    November 15, 2008   Ohio

    Early on I realized that my husband loved to share all my "fancies".  For example, when I met DH he used plain old horrible bar soap.  Then I put my body wash in the shower and it was seriously empty like 5 days later!!!!  What???!!! Turns out he loves the body wash!  He also loves my toothpaste, any kind of expensive shampoo I put in the shower (I first found out because his hair smelled amazing!!) Gahhhh.....what happened to his old school cheapy products that he could use TONS of for cheap?!?!?! Seriously, once he discovered "the puff" he seriously uses so much body wash it looks like he's frosting a cupcake!!! He also uses like 3 inch ribbons of toothpaste  - WHY!?!?!     But, he could have ALL those things and more if he would just share ONE thing with me....it is the ONE thing I have the hardest time sharing:

    T.V. Remote Control.  I H.A.T.E. his shows.   He H.A.T.E.S. mine.  Seriously, after 8.5 years together, we still cannot compromise on this.

     
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    jhphi    January 1, 2008  

    When he uses yours, make fun of him for how girly and flowery he smells.  That will stop him.  Hahha.  Of course, replace it with something a little more unisex smelling, "for his own good," of course...  :)

     
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    AbbyM    October 17, 2009   Chicago, IL but getting married in Southern Minnesota

    MrsK2be - had me CRACKING UP over the frosting comment!  Way too funny! :)

    I'm lucky and don't have to share my mositureizer or body wash - he loves his Oil of Olay soap and I love my fruity smelling body wash.  We do share regular lotion, but both us like the same stuff and I actually use more than him...which is weird b/c I'm only 5'1 and he is 6'1...oh well! :)

     
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    mouse    September 11, 2009   Austin, TX

    Haha, this is a funny thread.  I will never again get annoyed that my husband doesn't use moisturizer (even though I've told him countless times how important it is, especially to use one with sunscreen during the day), or buys cheap shampoo and conditioner (it's the only kind that works!, he says). 

     
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    worcesterbride    August 15, 2009   live in NYC, wedding in Worcester, MA

    You know what gets DH out of my beauty products? Telling him how much they cost.

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    hahaha we dont have any sharing issues with bath and body products. FI has his own body wash he likes bc it smells manly-- more power to him. He does use my shampoo and conditioner although I'd bet when we live together he'll buy his own. I don't really buy expensive stuff though so maybe thats why I don't care? haha. He stays away from my creams and whatnot. 

    We kind of have the leftovers issue though! Especially when we were first dating... it would bug me because if I made dinner? He'd take whatever leftovers there were for lunch the next day. If I bought dinner? He'd take whatever leftovers there were for lunch the next day. If he bought dinner? same. I didn't always care bc I'm not huge on left-overs... but if I wanted them I never got them! haha. I figured out the solution: be direct. Here is my current game plan and it works well. "Fi... I'm putting THIS in the fridge for my lunch tomorrow mmk??". It works. :)

     
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    Aubergold    May 2012   DC metro

    Great Stories! lol

     
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    cannotwait    February 1, 2009   TX

    haha, is there a tinted version you like?  then it will fall too much into the makeup category for him to want it!  I don't have this problem, as my hubby thinks any soap and shampoo works for him and actually HATES anything that smells girly.  I have a hard time accepted his IKEA kitchenware when I have nicer stuff, so instead we have both and it is very clashy!  He also thinks it is OK to mix them even though they are different styles and colors.  ;)

     
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    DaisyBride    June 1, 2009  

    Haha great stories!!

    I learned early on that if I want a decent portion of something extra yummy that I make for dinner, it can't be on a shared plate.  Like, I'll make french fries and put them on a plate with papertowels that we both eat from and he'll eat 90% of them!!  He eats so fast it's impossible for me to get my "fair share".  Now when I do that, I have to take a portion of the fries and put them on my own plate right away.  Even then, the food isn't completly safe b/c if it loosk like I've finished eating he'll start eating from my plate.  Sheesh, can't I take a 2 minute break?!?!

    Every time my Mom tells me I'm too thin I tell her that it's b/c hubby eats all my food. 

     
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    surkim    September 2, 2012  

    Whenever I offer BF a bite of something, he takes a HUGE bite.

    Sometimes it annoys me, but I guess it's more that when I was younger, people would ask for a bite/sip and eat 85% of whatever it was they wanted a sip/bite of.

    I had a pastry that was super-small, and he bit a good 1/3 of it off, so I started to make fun that he ate half of the pastry.  It was more a dig at the pastry than it was at him, but now we make fun of him eating half of something, even if he only takes a nibble.

    Otherwise, we're pretty good about things.  Except sometimes we do this thing where we're sharing and don't want to take the last bite, so we break whatever it is down bite by bite until it can't be broken anymore.  

     
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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    LOL, I hate sharing, too!  What gets me the most is when we go out and bring leftovers home, he feels like he can eat mine!  Sorry, he was a big and ate all his and I saved some for later, that doesn't mean I saved it for HIM, lol!

     
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    MsHymanRoth    October 24, 2009   Boston

    DaisyBride H and I do that too! I'll order and because I don't eat freakishly fast he will start eating my food! He will always eat his food and finish mine too. He tells people that's how I'm skinny ... lol.

    Surkim H does that sometimes too so now I'll put my finger right where I want his bite to end =) 

     
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    Nexus-6    March 12, 2010   Portland

    My fiance steals my Shu Uemura hair wax that like $35 for a tiny little jar! He has his own (but of a different variety) but claims his works better when he "mixes them together." WHATEVER!

     
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    LatteLove    June 19, 2009   Chicago/San Diego

    i hate sharing....food!  Becuase I'm the main cook in our house and we're broke...I buy our groceries very strategically.  So when he raids the fridge and takengs I was saving I get really irritated!  Stil take a lot of getting used to.

    He also stole a pair of wool slipper socks and has been wearing them around the house non stop.  They're my favorite socks and SO warm and he thinks its hilarious that i never get to wear them anymore because he always is. grrr :-)

     
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    otb    December 31, 2009   Chicago, IL

    I am completely envious of you MsHymanRoth.  I wish I could get my FH to moisturize!  He has nasty scaly hands and lips in the winter and REFUSES to moisturize!  Gahhh!  I told him if he didn't start moisturizing before the wedding, I would be wearing gloves so I wouldn't have to touch his hands, and I would make him kiss my cheek for the "You may now kiss the bride" part!  Lol....

     
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    honeybun    June 5, 2010   VA

    LOL Surkim!!! FI is soooo bad about that!!! I love peanut butter and banana sandwiches, and somehow, FI has never tried it! The other night, after asking him many times over the past 6 years to just taste it, he finally agreed to take a "bite." Yeah, that bite was like half the sandwich. Then I was annoyed and wished he would have just kept on refusing! LOL

     

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