Post # 1
My FI has his ex’s name tattood on him self.I don’t want to see it regardless but especially in an area where I don’t want to see it on our intimate times. He was young, crazy and stupid, his words. Understanding it was before we met, obviously. And he is getting it removed, but its not getting done fast enough for me. I wanted it done like, yesterday. lol. I’m not giving him a hard time about it and he knows how I feel about it. But the more I see it, it bothers me. How would you feel?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Get over it. I’m sure it bothers him that it bothers you since he is having it removed which I hear is extremely painful. It would have been faster just to cover it up with another tattoo. Your FH is going to be scarred for life because he cares about you so much that he is obliterating her name from his body. Your FH is awesome in my book.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Has he already started the removal process? He could just get another tattoo over it instead of removal.
I’d be pissed if I saw FI’s ex’s name every time we got naked. It might have been his mistake but it’s still a reminder to me too.
Post # 5
I had my exes name on my arm,but after the divorce, I got it covered with a high heel tat lol
Post # 6
My ex had one, and then he put this ugly heart thing over it. I never cared, he had children with the woman.
If my husband had one now, I doubt I would care either. I don’t know, I’m grown its his body & his past… what are you gonna do.
Post # 7
He could get something put over it, less costly, less painful, from what I hear.
Post # 8
@elysion: That’s exactly how I feel. Its a reminder. Not that he was with someone else, we all have a past and exes. But she screwed him over big time on a personal level and financially, mistreated him and is just a cold, pyschotic person . I was in a abusive relationship for 8yrs and wouldn’t dare to have is name on me. He is in the process but not continuously. And his ring finger is tattooed, which is also getting removed, but bothers me that we’re getting engage and don’t want that reminder of his horrible ex.
I know I may sound selfish, immature and maybe unreasonable, but its just a psycholoigal thing, I guess, that she’s branded him until its removed. lol.
Post # 9
FI has my name on his chest. He got it when he was 20. We broke up for 2 years and he dated a girl fairly seriously for a while during that time. boy oh boy did she hate that tattoo. He is attached to every tattoo he has and has vowed he will never cover up or remove any of em. including my name. at the time he did it, it really meant something, it marked a big jump for on a personal level. Who knows though if he hadn’t ended up with me if th ewoman he did choose would have been cool with his stance on it. idk. I know how I am though and it would bother me if the man I loved had another woman’s name on him (aside from maybe his mom or daughter)
Post # 10
This, my friends, is why you NEVER get a significant other’s name tattooed on you … it’s considered bad luck, anyway!
On a similar note, FI is heavily tattooed. He’s got some pieces on his arm tha drive me crazy, because one of the girls (kind of traditional piece) is a redhead and his only serious ex was a redhead! He told me he’s go get the hair redone if it bothered me too much, but I don’t feel right asking him to make the change.
Post # 11
My high school boyfreind got my name tattoed on himself without even telling me ahead of time. surprise. I never saw our relationship as forever but I guess he did, (and I felt bad). After we broke up he got another tattoo over it, (a sword or dagger or something….how symbolic.) But even though he got it covered, you could still somewhat see my name underneath, just more faint. I always felt bad for his future significant others who had to always see my name on him.
Post # 12
I would be very uncomfortable with that. I don’t really want to think of his ex while we are being intimate. honestly, I would rather he get it removed than covered.
Post # 13
He can only get it removed as fast as the doctor suggests. Actually, if he sped up his treatments it might cause scarring. It would probably annoy me but I would be happy that he was doing something about it.
Post # 14
I’m very grateful he’s getting it removed. I don’t tell him anything about it, he already knows how I feel and he feels the same. He’s half native american and his other tattoos are his traditional tatts. One of his trad. tatts represents his life… There’s an empty space for his wife or person he’s going to spend the rest of his life with. He didn’t fill that space when he was with her, but he’s filling it for me. So believe me, I’m beyond grateful. I was speaking in terms of my own feelings of seeing her name still, especially at intimate moments. Still can’t help but to think of her when I see it. It bothers me, but I’m not mad at him. just hate seeing it. lol
Post # 15
FH has a tattoo that his ex gave him. Luckily they dated in high school and they were friends for years afterwards, so she’s one of very few of his exes that I can tolerate… but it still bugs me once in a while. I can’t imagine what it’d be like if it was her (or another ex’s) name.
Post # 16
I would be upset, just being honest. I, too, would want it removed as soon as possible. You’ve stated loud and clear that it’s not his past that you have problems with, but the constant reminder, especially in an intimate place would SUCK. To me it would be the same as dating a divorced man who keeps his wedding ring on. Now, I know that is a stretch, but I would still feel the same feelings of the reminder constantly being there!