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I came off BCPs in late October and was totally amped on using OPKs every day and BDing at the right times etc etc etc. I decided that this time I'm not going to worry about it, no OPK testing and just BD every couple days. I feel like the old saying "it happens when you stop trying" may actually be true. With that being said, I have no reason to ssume that my body won't regulate on itself and do what it's supposed to.
How long have you been TTC? How long have you noticed you're not ovulating? I would say if it hasn't been too long, try not to think about it too much.... and remember that 8-12 months to concieve is considered NORMAL! I know I know, we want it now:)
@drakela2- I did that for the first couple of months but I have now been instructed to chart and use opk's so that we have a better understanding of what is going on. They don't believe I am ovulating at all and are hoping that we could see something in my charts. I am a hugh risk patient and have underlying medical issues so they want to move forward after 6 months, expecially since months with no ovulation.
I was much better the first couple of months when I wasn't charting. Now I feel like I can't not think about it.
So sorry you aren't ovulating. :( I can't tell you how to reduce stress, as I'm up to my ears in stress from ttc and struggle with this daily. But I hope you enjoy the holiday season and take good care of yourself, both physically and mentally. Why do you have to wait until March? Hang in there!!
@Jenn23- Thanks. I hope you have a wonderful holiday as well and that you can escape from the stress too. That will be my 6 month mark and they are hoping that maybe my body just needs time to regulate. I was on the pill for 12 yrs.
@roxy821: Ahh, I see. Well, I hope that your body cooperates and starts ovulating and soon! :) If not, just know that the doctor will have a plan in place and should be able to help you! Many ladies don't ovulate properly and just need a little help (medicine) and then get pregnant! :)
I completely understand the frustration of not ovulating. I just started ovulating again after almost a year of not ovulating. It took some time working with my doctor to figure out what was wrong, but things are better now! At least with the ovulating part...still no BFP but I am hoping that will happen now that I am regulating.
The charting and OPK's were making me crazy too, but I tried to focus on something else. My husband and I try to plan something fun for if I end up getting AF and obviously a BFN so that way there is a little something to look forward to and get my mind off it. It doesn't have to be something big, just something you enjoy. Maybe you could do that with OPK's? It doesn't completely make it go away, but it helps distract me a bit.
I also have been really trying to focus on getting healthy and learning to cook new meals. The meal planning and recipe discovering has helped me to focus on something besides TTC.
*HUGS* Try to hang in there. I know it's tough, but we're here to listen!
Edit: By the way, it just took some medicine to get me ovulating properly, that might be all you need as well!
i'm sorry you are having a rough time. sending some major hugs your way.
after 6 months of bfn's (i know this is nothing compared to other couples) i was broken, frustrated and totally stressed out. all i could think of was about babies, ttc, beeing pregnant and so on. i had to tell myself that this is not the way how things could continue. so i cut down on my internet time (searching for signs, stories, medical issues etc) to about 15min in the morning and 15min at night. I started practicing yoga twice a week and i'm also going to acupuncture on a weekly basis. i forced myself to see what I have now and not what I currenlty can't have. for me all these little things worked wonders. i'm still not pregnant which still makes me sad but i'm not as sensitive as I used to be.
i hope you'll find a way to deal with the struggle and hopefully your doctor has a plan ready for you when you get to see him in march. good luck!
@Sunshine1810- I'm glad to hear that the doctors are able to help you and I really hope you get a BFP soon. I am taking care of myself eating healthy, excercing, and no alchohol but taking my temp every morning and using opk's reamind me ever if I try to forget. That sounds like a good idea and have something planned, but I never know when AF is going to show.
@elchalten- Hugs to you too. Hope you are able to get your little miracle too. And you are right, the internet it the devil lol
@roxy821: aww...girl, I'm with you...(as you already know!) I feel your pain with the not ovulating bit!
I can't help you make the stress go away, but I can definately go through this with you!
@anotherbee- Thanks. It's so nice to have these boards because not every understands and just tells you it will take time. And it's personal so since only one or two people know I don't want to keep talking about it with them.
@roxy821: oh I hear ya! And personally, I don't want to talk to my friends about ovulating..lol.
I have one friend who is curerntly 30 wks preggers, but took her a year, and I tried to have the charting talk with her, but her response was "good luck, it was so frustrating and a pain in the ass, jsut take a HPT each month and don't worry".
So that was no fun. None of my other friends are there yet, so they are still all on HBC anyways.
I do plan to talk to my sis though. I know my mom was married 8 years before she was born, so i'm wondering if there might have been some fertility stuff going on. I think my sis got KU with all three of hers pretty quickly though.
I've never been through this, so I don't have any tips, but I hope everything gets better! Best wishes! : )
Can you go see another doctor? It seems crazy that they want you to chart and use opks for 3 months to see if you are ovulating. My doctor (RE) didn't care about my charts or opks - she took a bunch of bloods tests that first day I saw her and then had me come back on CD2 and CD 21 for more blood tests to see what was going on. I actually stopped charting after seeing my doctor and it reduced the stress.
@missbbc- I have been with the same doctor since I was 13 and they deal specifically with hugh risk patients (I have underlying medical issues) and they have always been absolutely wonderful. Since for insurance purposes I have to wait six months, so I think they just want to have some data to review so that they have more than just bloodwork to see exactly what is happening.
@roxy821: Got it! Good luck! I actually had a surgery that put my ttc on hold for 3 months. I thought it would be agonizing but I banned myself from anything on the internet ttc related. It helped a lot.
@roxy821: thanks for the wishes. as far as temping goes. i think it is a great and useufull tool. in the beginning charting added some stress to my life because i thought every single temp is important and I didn't really know how to categorize CM and CP. i was close to giving up. i'm now on month 5 of charting and it got a lot easier. now I just temp, check my CM, put the info in my chart, close the program, done. i don't think what would happen if my temp would be a bit higher or lower or whatever. i don't look at each temp on its own, i'm just looking for pattern. i think it is worth to hang in there.
@elchalten- You are right. DH and I try to read every temperature and try to anticipate instead of just taking it for what it is and reviewing later for a pattern.
I think the waiting and the unknown is the worst. It just makes you feel so out of control. Find little ways to find some control (even it's just percieved control). For instance, I read that fresh pineapple is good during the TWW. Something about the enzyme helping with implantation. So I've been eating fresh pineapple twice a day. It stupid and silly, but it makes me *feel* like I have some control. I'm also going to acupuncture and will start chinese herbs if this IUI cycle doesn't work.
Have you read, "Making Babies: A Proven 3-Month Program for Maximum Fertility". I highly recommend it. I wasn't able to use it specifically in my case, but there is so much good information to help you.
@mmsva: your post made me smile for two reasons.
One: i'm currently sitting in front of my pc and i'm eating some fresh pineapple. i did that for the past four days. i love this fruit and it was on sale so i stocked up on it. i didn't know that it is suppose to be good during the tww. i'm 7dpo, so perfect timing i would say.
Two: i also ordered the book you recommended a few days ago and it should get delivered to my door today ;-) can't wait to start reading.
@mmsva- I like pineapple and it looks like elchalten agrees with you advice too :)
i got my the book "making babies" last night. i have only flipped through the pages but i must say the way it is written... LOVE IT! can't wait to start reading the whole thing.
Ahh I want the book too!
I am looking at my wedding pictures. It helps remind me when things gets hard of why we really want to have a family.
@elchalten: That is so funny! I think I'm hitting my pineapple limit. Last cycle I ate 3 in 2 weeks. I'm now 8dpo and I'm just starting my 3rd pineapple and I'm kinda sick of it. But I'm forcing myself to keep eating it. I'm really glad you like the book.
@roxy821: I just went out for a belated wedding anniversary dinner last night (about 2 months late) and we flipped through our wedding album when we got home. It was so awesome to relive our wonderful day and I just fell more and more in love with DH. I can't wait to make a baby with him!
@roxy821: I'm so late to this thread, but you are describing my frustrations to a T. I've had annovulatory cycles for the 12 months we've been TTC, and have been on Clomid since October to try and stimulate ovulation - still no luck.
It's so annoying to be charting, and temping, and CM checking, and OPK/Fertility Monitor testing, only to confirm your body isn't doing what it should - and that you don't even have a SHOT at pregnancy.
I'm sorry, I'm not helping - I'm just a willing ear if you need a vent, because omg, I am so there.
@jaguar- I'm so sorry you are going through this too :(
I feel like I don't even know if we are TTC because without ovulating we can't even try. But FF told me I may have ovulated this cycle although I had no spike in temp or a positive OPK.
@roxy821: The way I see it... is that you are most definitely still TTC. You're BD-ing at the times you feel are most appropriate, you're taking all the right steps to make a baby.. it's just.. your body isn't doing what it's supposed to. There are a few people who have never had a positive OPK or Fertility test, that STILL got knocked up, so I don't give up hope in that respect. *hugs*
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Not ovulating and have to wait and keep charting until March before I go to the doctors.
I feel so discouraged everyday taking my temperature and peeing on a stick. After another 2.5 months of this I think I am going to be really broken :(
Any tips on how to take away the stress or focus on TTC when you are charting and using opk's everyday only to see no change?