Post # 1
I’ve been racking my brain about what to buy my husband for christmas. In years past I’ve done DIY gifts that always seem to fall a little flat. So this year I thought I would just buy him something.
The problem is, whenever we are at a store and he sees something he wants he just buys it for himself. He has told me he wants posters, but honestly we just don’t have the wall space for them. The last posters I bought him are still sitting in the packaging they came in because we have nowhere to hang them. Do I buy him wall art we won’t use for several years, try the DIY route yet again, or just give up. I honestly feel so frustrated at this point.
To top it off I accidentally ruined my own christmas surprise. I found something I wanted and told him that I was going to buy it off Amazon. His response was that he was going to buy it for me for christmas. He didn’t even try to hide the surprise or try to put me off buying it until later. He just said “Oh, well that was going to be your christmas present.” So now I feel like I’ve done the same thing I’m frustrated at him for.
Post # 2
I am in the same boat as you. FI never wants me to buy him anything. I ask if he wants ” X” for Christmas, his repsonse is always I’m good. Even if he wants something he won’t say so because he doesn’t like me spending my money on him.
If he wants something he will just go out and buy it so gift giving has always been difficult. Usually I just book us a trip so that he can’t refuse 🙂
Post # 3
Why not buy him an experience instead of a physical gift. You wouldn’t even need to buy one as you could DIY it. Think about his interests and try and find an experience that goes a long with that. For example a poster art exhibit followed by a meal at a restaurant whose decor is poster related.
Post # 4
Agree with pp that experience gifts are always great. And a poster exhibit would be boss!! Also, they make a lot of posters on magnets, if you can find some replicas of his posters or have them put on magnets that might be a fun way to pay homage to his beloved posters.
Another idea is if you could get his posters he already has framed and figure out some way to get them some space on the walls, the ceiling, (maybe they go up for 6 months as part of the gift). If he loves posters, and has the posters, I think you could do something cool with them DIYish 🙂
Post # 5
I’m in the same boat. I’ve asked FI what he wants for christmas and his response is “I don’t know, don’t ask me” because he finds the whole season frustrating. He buys what he wants ahead of time so there’s nothing I can really buy for him unless he says “get me this” and I know he won’t go buy it for himself.
I agree with buying an experience, even if it’s just an outing to a new restaurant he’d like.
Post # 6
I agree with experience gifts, or you need to think really hard about something he wants that maybe he wouldnt have thought of wanting for himself.
In previous years I’ve framed important things for my FI, bought video game accessories, and gotten tickets to basketball games.
Post # 7
I just buy my fiance clothes. He always wears them so I can’t go wrong there. Why don’t you just give him coupons. Make coupons for things he likes to do for example a date to a movie, a home cook meal, or wash the car, something like that.
Post # 8
Naiya_i: Ugh! I feel your pain. My DH just buys what he wants and never asks for anything for Christmas/Mentions what he would like if ai ask hom what he wants.
This year I got him a nice luggage set… It’s something he needs and will come in use for our HM in May (& many other trips). I also bought him some sessions for Glassblowing. I know that’s something he has been wanting to do for a while. So figured, this experience would be a good gift for him.
Maybe you can find something/go somewhere/try a new restaurant that he would like to do, but hasn’t done yet!