- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I have seven bridesmaids standing up in our wedding. I had FI shave down the number from twelve on each side because there was just no way I could come up with that many girls due to being an only child, he has no sisters himself, and I have a very small friend group and set of close family.
I have not asked the girls for help with anything. I have taken care of my save the dates by myself, my decorations by myself, and my invitations by myself. All I asked of them was that they vote on which of two dresses they preferred and once the majority rule was made, they please have half down by December 27th.
We are going to a nearby bridal gallery because any other is so far away from us and I know it would just be a huge mess to try and deal with them being able to make it for fittings elsewhere. The gallery only had two dresses in the price range I set. I wanted to make it as cheap as I possibly could for the girls because I knew some would be struggling to afford one.
The gallery’s policy is that all of the girls need half down on the dress before they will submit the order due to the cost of shipping. It also of course will take 4-6 weeks for the dresses to arrive. They informed us that they could not guarantee that the cost of the dress would not increase after January, so they suggested orders be finalized before then. I gave the girls months of advance notice of this policy so that they would have plenty of time to get the $50.00 together without it being a last minute surprise or strain on them.
Four of the girls have their orders all ready to go. Two will be getting theirs this weekend. The last, however, was the one I was a bit nervous about, and it seems my fears were right. I sent out friendly reminder messages about the orders needing to be in by the 27th of December to everyone. My last bridesmaid’s response was, “Oh good. Glad you reminded me. I forgot.” Some more time passed again, and I still did not hear from her about when she planned on having her order done.
A few days ago I sent her another text politely asking her when she thought she would be making her order. I heard nothing back, but saw her share plenty of things on FB through her phone, so I then sent her a FB message, again asking when she thought she’d be making her order. She told me she didn’t care if she had to pay more for her dress and would get hers later. I pointed out that the gallery will not make the order unless all of the girls have their money down, so if she did not, then all the girls would have to be penalized because of it. She then said she would call the next day and take care of it.
Just like I feared, I contacted the gallery today just to confirm everything with them, and she never bothered to call. I sent her one last text about it which she never replied to, but again I see she’s got plenty of time to share away from her cell on FB.
I like to think I am pretty lax with them as far as the wedding goes. I make no requests of them other than the dresses and am more than happy to do my projects on my own as I really do enjoy them and don’t want to burden anyone. So, I thought that giving them months notice about the half down was pretty reasonable. Now I am starting to get pretty frustrated and don’t know what to do. There is only one week to make sure the order is finalized in time and she does not seem to care at all. Am I being unreasonable here and not seeing it?