(Closed) so frustrating when people ask “HEY WHY WASNT I INVITED?!”

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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988 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Yep, stupid people. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Yeah, it’s damn irritating. Facebook friends who KNOW we wanted a very, very small wedding with only family and a few very close friends keep going, “Sorry I missed it!” after they see the pictures. Sorry–you weren’t *&^%ing invited in the first place.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

That would drive me insane. I am so sorry those people are rude.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Ha!  You want to talk about EVERYONE asking you why they weren’t invited!??!  Try having a severely unplanned, absolute last minute, quickie JoP wedding where you barely had time to call your immediate family to let them know the when and where, while hoping they could make it with less than an hour’s notice!!!  We were lucky that we were able to even get ahold of our parents and siblings and that they were even able to make it on such short notice! 

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

it’s so awkward D: And for some reason it’s only the obscure people you barely know who ask and never legitimate friends/family who ask if they’re invited!

I called up a best pal of 6 years to say I was engaged and she immediately said ‘ I understand if you cannot invite me since it’s a small wedding’ but a friend-of-a-friend just screeched out ‘ SO WHEN DO I GET MY INVITE?!’ mid-dinner while another starts talking about how she’ll get drunk and make out with her boyfriend – who also isn’t invited – there. C’mon people!D:<

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am fearing that this will be happening to me very soon. 

As an undergrad, I sort of fell into a group of friends that was huge. We were mostly in the same major or related majors, or were parts of similar groups. 

Out of that large group, I have stayed close to about 5 of the people in the group. 

I’m inviting a few of the people from the group who I’m not as close to now, but there are also a couple people who just flat out got cut. 

I really don’t feel bad about this. The people who got cut were cut b/c they were either the least close person I knew out of the group, or because they give off negative vibes all the time and make everyone else unhappy. No thank you. 

But I fully anticipate some “Hey, why didn’t you invite me” messages after the wedding. 

Post # 11
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661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m going through it, but with this ONE person.  We’ve known her for about 2 yrs (used to work with her, I was her manager until I opened up my own business) and again, we weren’t very close.  But, my goodness, she has been asking since July 2009 if she’s invited!!!

Now that the wedding is in 2 months, you think she would’ve gotten the hint when neither one of us have responded!!!  Now because of mutual friends, we see her (just saw her 2 weeks ago) and lo and behold … she came up to me (and my FI separately) and asked “So, I hope I’m invited, I’m just telling you.  I would love to be there”.

Lady, $100 a plate and a limited guest list, for someone I barely know and am not personal with …. doesnt’ seem to mesh well together.  lol

I’m wondering whats going to happen when the wedding passes and she figures out … :gasps!!!:  she wasn’t invited!!! lol

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

AHH…how annoying!  We’re at the point of sending out our Save the Dates soon, and I’m keeping my fingers crossed that we won’t have too much of this (wishful thinking.) 

Anyway, just wondering- how do you guys respond to people like that?  It’s just so rude…what the heck do you say?!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yeah, I’m just trying to wrap my head around the thought process that would lead someone to say stuff like that. A few of my fellow grad students, who I have never seen outside of school, work, and school functions, have said stuff like that. They’re perfectly nice people who I am friendly with… but really? You can’t just ask if you’re invited to someone’s wedding. Can you? Why would you? Ugh.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would just answer with no its just a family affair..

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