Post # 1
Im sorry — but I cant stand when people ask me why they werent invited or if they are invited. i think it is so rude. A girl I havent talked to since middle school (Im graduating college now) found me on facebook and one of the first things she said was “so am I invited to this wedding of yours?” ughhh and then my fiances best friends little sister asked him “hey I should be invited I should be like a sister to you.” she is like 7 years younger and they never were close. Its so frustrating and I think its rude and awkward when people do that. ugh !
end of rant.
Post # 4
Yeah, it’s damn irritating. Facebook friends who KNOW we wanted a very, very small wedding with only family and a few very close friends keep going, “Sorry I missed it!” after they see the pictures. Sorry–you weren’t *&^%ing invited in the first place.
Post # 5
That would drive me insane. I am so sorry those people are rude.
Post # 6
I am SO happy you guys agree. For a second I thought I was being dramatic – and maybe in a way I am. But it is very annoying to have to deal with it. If I havent talked to you within a YEAR you shouldnt EXPECT to be there. I wish people would understand that we dont invite anyone we have ever talked to. Even if I could invite 1000 people, I would still only invite people who truly matter in our lives – not someone i went to class with when I was 14!
Thank you ladies 🙂
Post # 7
@Mrs Grape: Your comment made me laugh out loud hahahaha
Post # 8
Ha! You want to talk about EVERYONE asking you why they weren’t invited!??! Try having a severely unplanned, absolute last minute, quickie JoP wedding where you barely had time to call your immediate family to let them know the when and where, while hoping they could make it with less than an hour’s notice!!! We were lucky that we were able to even get ahold of our parents and siblings and that they were even able to make it on such short notice!
Post # 9
it’s so awkward D: And for some reason it’s only the obscure people you barely know who ask and never legitimate friends/family who ask if they’re invited!
I called up a best pal of 6 years to say I was engaged and she immediately said ‘ I understand if you cannot invite me since it’s a small wedding’ but a friend-of-a-friend just screeched out ‘ SO WHEN DO I GET MY INVITE?!’ mid-dinner while another starts talking about how she’ll get drunk and make out with her boyfriend – who also isn’t invited – there. C’mon people!D:<
Post # 10
I am fearing that this will be happening to me very soon.
As an undergrad, I sort of fell into a group of friends that was huge. We were mostly in the same major or related majors, or were parts of similar groups.
Out of that large group, I have stayed close to about 5 of the people in the group.
I’m inviting a few of the people from the group who I’m not as close to now, but there are also a couple people who just flat out got cut.
I really don’t feel bad about this. The people who got cut were cut b/c they were either the least close person I knew out of the group, or because they give off negative vibes all the time and make everyone else unhappy. No thank you.
But I fully anticipate some “Hey, why didn’t you invite me” messages after the wedding.
Post # 11
I’m going through it, but with this ONE person. We’ve known her for about 2 yrs (used to work with her, I was her manager until I opened up my own business) and again, we weren’t very close. But, my goodness, she has been asking since July 2009 if she’s invited!!!
Now that the wedding is in 2 months, you think she would’ve gotten the hint when neither one of us have responded!!! Now because of mutual friends, we see her (just saw her 2 weeks ago) and lo and behold … she came up to me (and my FI separately) and asked “So, I hope I’m invited, I’m just telling you. I would love to be there”.
Lady, $100 a plate and a limited guest list, for someone I barely know and am not personal with …. doesnt’ seem to mesh well together. lol
I’m wondering whats going to happen when the wedding passes and she figures out … :gasps!!!: she wasn’t invited!!! lol
Post # 12
AHH…how annoying! We’re at the point of sending out our Save the Dates soon, and I’m keeping my fingers crossed that we won’t have too much of this (wishful thinking.)
Anyway, just wondering- how do you guys respond to people like that? It’s just so rude…what the heck do you say?!
Post # 13
Yeah, I’m just trying to wrap my head around the thought process that would lead someone to say stuff like that. A few of my fellow grad students, who I have never seen outside of school, work, and school functions, have said stuff like that. They’re perfectly nice people who I am friendly with… but really? You can’t just ask if you’re invited to someone’s wedding. Can you? Why would you? Ugh.
Post # 14
I would just answer with no its just a family affair..