Post # 1
So, my mom thinks I’m over-reacting about this situation, but I don’t think I am (even though I can admit it’s pretty lame). I want your opinions.
On Monday, my sister called me and asked if I could dog-sit for her this weekend because her and her girlfriend were going out of town to visit our aunt and uncle. I agreed. My sister called me this afternoon to check on her dog and mentioned that our grandparents, who live across the country and we only see a few times a year, were also at my aunt and uncle’s visiting. I was a bit disappointed I wasn’t there to see them, since I’m pretty close with my grandma (I mean, we plan on giving a future daughter her name as a middle name). Well, I was just on Facebook and saw pictures that my mom had posted of her and my sisters at my aunt and uncle’s house.
No one told me my whole immediate family was going to be there… I was never even invited or anything. The only mention of the trip was said when I was asked to take care of the dog. So, I called my mom and asked her why and she replied “Well, it was just a weekend trip… It’s not like we were spending the week at a beach.” Um, I’d rather visit family I rarely get to see than go to a beach. (DH and I can’t do trips right now because of his work schedule and our car isn’t that great and probably won’t survive the eight hour drive, However, I’m not working and I could have totally done the trip if I had known about it).
She thinks I have no reason to be upset. Well, I am because, apparently, I can dog-sit, but I can’t be asked if I’d like to go when there was room at the car and house. (It’s just my aunt and uncle and they have a ridiculously big house for just two people). DH said I should just not let the dog out tomorrow and let them clean up whatever it does, but I can’t because it’s not the dog’s fault. I guess I’m just sick of always doing things for my family (i.e. last week I cleaned my mom’s ENTIRE house before a party because she was working and wouldn’t have time) and I can’t even get the courtesy of an invitation to go visit my relatives with them.
Sorry… I just needed to get that off my chest.
Post # 3
🙁 I would be upset too! They totally should have invited you.
Post # 4
I’m really sorry. I think that is pretty crappy and I would be very upset if it happened to me as well. I don’t know the dynamics in your family, but I am very close with mine, and I totally totally think you are justified in feeling hurt. Sometimes our families do messed up things, but it doesn’t mean they don’t love us, so I wouldn’t drive yourself crazy about it, but you’re allowed to feel hurt because something hurtful was done to you. *hugs*
Post # 5
This sounds really strange.why didn’t they invite you? That would upset me, too. Maybe your aunt and uncle were in charge of invite? and yes, please don’t take it out on the poor dog.
Post # 6
I understand, that’s mean and inconsiderate!
PS Please don’t punish the dog for your family’s selfishness.
Post # 7
Definitely don’t punish the dog by not taking him out this time… but I wouldn’t agree to watch their dog in the future. They can pay for a dogsitter next time.
Post # 8
I am totally taking care of the dog, don’t worry. And thanks for the responses.
Post # 9
@carrotstick: I definitely agree. Next time let them pay to board the dog if they can’t bother to be considerate to you.
And let your mom pay for a maid to come in. I would be stopping all my helpful behavior if they can’t even ask you to ride along on a family weekend trip. Sorry OP, that just sucks
Post # 10
i’m sorry, but past the age of 10 we can’t expect to be invited to everything.
Post # 11
That would TOTALLY chap my ass too. I’m sorry, OP!
Post # 12
I would start cutting back on family favors…
Post # 13
@futuremrsndl: What is your family dynamic? That wouldn’t have happened in my family. We consult each other about EVERYTHING, but that might be cultural. (We’re first generation Chinese.)
Nonetheless, it seems a little bit rude. You have every reason to be upset. It’s obvious that someone communicated with each other (your parents w/your sister w/ your aunt w/ your grandparents), so why you were excluded seems a bit odd.
Post # 14
I’d be totally ripped!! I think your feelings are completely justifiable, im really sorry, that sucks! I agree with PP, I’d be stopping all the helpful behavior too!
Post # 15
I would be upset about this too OP. I cannot imagine this happening in my family. I would be so, so upset. Is your family very close, or is this sort of thing a common occurrence? I hope it was just a misunderstanding, and that you aren’t feeling too left out!
Post # 16
@bebero: I know, but I at least expect to be told everyone was going instead of just being asked to watch my sister’s dog and finding out I wasn’t invited through Facebook.
@Bazingau: We’re all really close, that’s why I don’t understand it. I am always helping them, including by watching my little sister several times a month. I’m pretty upset that they didn’t even tell me they were going.
@BrandNewBride: I agree and I’m definitely cutting back on the favors.