Post # 1
So, we only sent our invitations out on 30 March and our RSVP date isn’t until 1 June but I’m getting so impatient for RSVPs! We’ve sent out invitations to around 150 people and so far we’ve had 17 replies and most of those are from our parents and aunts. I’m just slightly concerned that a lot of our friends from uni don’t realise how important it is to send a real reply for a wedding and think they can just rock up on the day. Guess I’ve just got to keep my fingers crossed.
Anyone else got itchy fingers for those RSVPs?
Post # 3
Not yet as not sending our trill September. But I already know I’m going to be a nightmare at checking the mail!!
Post # 4
@clumsylawyer: Haha, get ready to play the waiting game.
It’s kind of ridiculous how many people will wait until the last minute to fill out the response card (or respond at all). Luckily I had to bother very few guests on my own end, but between my husband’s massive family and the few co-workers we invited, there were a few last minute headaches.
I’m just like, the thing is stamped, has the return address printed on it, and is ready to be dropped in the mail — how can I make this any freaking easier for you???!
Post # 5
I was the same way which is why I now make a habit to try and send back RSVP’s the next day!
Post # 6
Truly the whole RSVP Reply thing is the most stressful (and a pain in the butt when people dick around or mess stuff up… cause drama / trauma)
The good news is it will over soon. Smooth sailing for the most part after that… also means your Wedding is right round the corner. Yippee !!
So, focus on the positive stuff… it will help you get thru this stage.
Post # 7
I think you sent out invites way early to be getting responses. Alot of people probably don’t ye tknow if they’re free or not. You’ll get most of them towards the end of May/early June.
As for your concerns about your friends just showing up – they won’t, since if you don’t receive RSVPs for everyone, you need to call them to find out if they will be coming or not.
We noticed we got a lot of our yeses at the beginnings and most of the no’s came towards the end from people who waited to respond.
Post # 8
It is driving me crazy. Our RSVP deadline is April 20th and we still have 50+ people unaccounted for. We have invited 105 people. Every day I can’t wait to check the mail… but for the last week, the box has been empty. My FI has already taken it upon himself to make calls to his family so that we can at least make reservations for the Rehersal Dinner. My family has all responded (except for my uncle and his son). But it is my friends… They just don’t seem to realize how important that little card that came with an addressed and stamped envelope really is.
This is deffinatly the most stressful part of wedding planning so far!
Post # 9
@MrsWBS: You see, I thought we’d got them out really early too, as it was 16 weeks ahead but a few people have been on my back about leaving it too late. One of my colleagues was saying that I’d have a low reply rate because everyone would already have plans
Post # 10
I just mailed half of the invitations today, and I’m already wondering when I’ll start getting the RSVPs back!
Post # 11
u’d think ppl would be courteous enough to just drop it in the mail the next day. Sometimes theyve had a year’s notice already! I think ppl get them in the mail and then think ‘I know theyre waiting to hear but I don’t have to fill that out today or mail it if I dont want to.’ Like they dont want to have to conform to anything they weren’t planning to do themselves. Even when the guests r a married couple, and ud think the woman would understand since she was a bride at one time too, even then there seems to be no urgency on the part of the guest. I know I will struggle with this aspect the most.
Post # 12
You sent them out really early, that may be why people haven’t responded. Mine are due tomorrow and I have a handful of people who I know are no’s that haven’t responded, many that are yes’s that haven’t- but what I really care about are the people who I have absolutely no clue whether or not they plan to come and have yet to hear from, fortunately that’s only a small #.
Post # 13
I think you sent them out a little early…I agree with PP that people maybe not know their plans for July yet and might not be thinking that far ahead. Did you mail out STDs? I am not sending mine out til May 1st
Post # 14
Wow, that is way early. We’re sending ours out early June with a late July RSVP date for our August wedding.
Post # 15
We didn’t do STDs and our venue wants a month notice of numbers and their food choices so I sent them out a bit ahead of time. I realise I’m being somewhat unreasonable about being annoyed at the moment I’m just the kind of person who puts the card straight back in the mail as soon as I get it so I guess I expected more people to do the same.