Post # 1
Let me start by clarifying what I mean by ‘sweeter’. He’s always been very caring and gentle in the bedroom, but lately (as in the last 2 or 3 months) he’s been more emotionally intimate while we’re doing the deed. Just little things, that are very tender and a little more mushy than he normally is. Don’t get me wrong, it’s never been ‘wham-bam, thank you ma’am’ for us, but these little gestures are just extra little perks, if you will.
He would do things kinda like this when we first started dating (3 1/2 yrs ago) but then they basically tapered off over time. Now, all of a sudden he’s back to little mushy lovey dovey stuff. But it’s only in the bedroom. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining, but it just seems odd because most of the things he’s doing are things that would be perfectly acceptable forms of PDA. But he’s never been overly into PDA’s, so it makes me think that he’s ‘slipping them in’ during our lovemaking so they won’t seem so uncharacteristic. ‘Cause if he were all of a sudden all mushy in public and day to day, I’d be like, “what’s gotten into you?” But not in a critical way, more in a playful, “who are you and what have you done with my BF” kinda way.
(Stay with me here, I know I’m rambling a bit, but I’m almost done)
Of course, my girl-brain goes into hyperdrive attempting to overanalyze and make sense of it all. I have a theory, and I hope I’m right, but I’d like to hear thoughts from you gals, as well.
Post # 3
I noticed that my SO started being sweeter to me when he started thinking on his own that he wants to get married. However it was also when we were starting LDR for a bit so it could’ve been that too. It seems plausible to me that he’s made a decision and is coming close to it so he’s able to be more vulnerable and sweet to you. It would be interesting to hear what Mr. Hedgie has to say……!
Post # 6
@jedeve: That’s a negative, Ghost Rider. We have a two and a half year old together, and my 10 year old son from a previous relationship.
Post # 7
I don’t want to get your hopes up, but Fiance did this right before he proposed. He was very passionate and sweet in bed.
Post # 8
Maybe he is being more self aware about his actions and how they effect you. Or maybe he has been reading up on relationships and intimacy on the internet, and realizing that he should be more expressive. Either way, it’s a good thing!
Post # 9
I don’t know if I have tons of advice, but I wanted to let you know that your post title made me laugh:) We’ve never been super romantic in the sack (wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am is actually a little more how we like it hehehe), so I’d probably be more inclind to ask him what he did wrong ;D KIDDING!
Maybe he’s having romantical thoughts about your future together
Post # 10
Thanks for the theories, ladies. Keep ’em coming! And I second @LaurenK0105:‘s notion of wanting to hear what Mr. Hedgie would have to say. And Mr. Tattoo, as well, since he popped in here on the boards the other day, too.
And yes, as a few posters have suggested, I am hoping that he’s got getting engaged/married on the brain sometime soon. Even if that’s not the case, I’m gonna enjoy it just the same.
Post # 11
Definitely reading up on some sex material and/or overhearing stuff at work. Wants to go with the flow that women like this lovey-dovey stuff and that he should focus on it more like he used to do when you guys were just starting out.
Post # 12
Honestly I’d be thinking it’s engagement on the brain too, but truth is we [sadly] just don’t know. We’d drive ourselves mad if we thought every single out-of-the-ordinary thing meant engagement on the brain! I guess I’d say just enjoy it (like you plan to)! Pointing it out wouldn’t be the best plan, I know with my SO he’d only become self-conscious and stop doing it.
Post # 13
@Sasha2011: That was a guess of mine too. If my husband changed his behavior in bed, my first guess would be that he read an article on deadspin saying that men who make eye contact get action twice as much or something like that.
Post # 14
Wonderwoman…. I have followed you for quite some time. You stopped posting for awhile and I wondered what happened to you.
I am now married after waiting and waiting and waiting. We were just married two months ago.
My now husband was WAY sweeter in bed shortly before getting engaged. I mean noticeably. He just took more “care”….
I wish the best for you! I hope it’s what you think it is, and I can honestly say it’s a pretty good sign because it happened for me too!