(Closed) SO has cold feet…what does this mean? HELP

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’d say give him some space. It’s probably just normal anxiety. What do you mean by “strange and weird”?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

is this your engagement ring? if he hasn’t proposed yet, he’s prob just nervous about that, which seems normal!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

It just sounds to me like he’s nervous about proposing, which is totally normal. I wouldn’t read too much into it.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

He’s probably just nervous which is understandable. This is a very big step. I wouldn’t read that much into it.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i would chalk it up to nerves, since he already bought the ring. dont worry too much im sure he is just super nervous about the act of proposing….it alot harder on the guys than we realize.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Soladylike: Um, have you tried actually talking to him? Because I think you are assuming that he has cold feet based on indirect signals. If you actually talked to him about what’s going on and why he’s acting the way he is, you may be surprised. Communication. Every healthy marriage is based on it – try talking to him.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

If those are his concerns, it doesn’t really sound like he’s ready for marriage. You should completely trust and love the person you are with and not be worried they are going to divorce you and take all your money. I would say you both need to sit down and have a very serious discussion about marriage and what marriage means to both of you. It sounds like a serious case of cold feet but IMO alot of discussion has to happen between you two before he should propose.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Aren’t we all afraid of divorce?? While we all love our SO, there is never a 100% guarantee on ANYTHING. I don’t know…. sounds like normal fears to me.

We just found out we’re having a baby, and are definitely afraid of becoming an “old boring couple”. I think we all have fears- the important thing is to be open and talk about them with eachother.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Oh it sounds like he is a worrier.  I’d give him some space and let him worry till his hearts content.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree its normal to be nervous… I really dont think you should read his emails though.. doesnt that spoil the suprise of it?

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