Post # 1
Here’s the situation. We moved from a place we weren’t happy at, to closer to our hometown. SO was promised a job by this company and his brother in law also works there so was relating the message when SO had to go in. Like a day a time. So this goes on for about a month and a half..the executive chef who works there left the company for two weeks because he got pissed off so that pushed back SO’s starting date. So he finally gets the day and time he’s supposed to start, he gets ready and his brother in law tells him that the company called him and told him they couldn’t fit him into their budget until spring. It was going to be our main source of income and health insurance. the exectutive chef never called SO directly and always had someone else tell him what was up, even tho SO had called him and the chef never returned his call ( the chef is a dick and needs to be fired obviously) . SO went to a little place here in town instead after all this,and only offered him 8$ an hour to basically be the sous chef/assistant manager. The chef is expecting him to do beyond what 8$ an hour is worth and SO is sick about going in. Hes only worked there for a couple days. Mind you, we live in a small small place that doesn’t offer the cooking that he does… Other then the first company he was supposed to work for. He hates going into this new job and jobs here are limited unless you’re related to anyone. Yes we know we’re lucky for him to have a job, but I know that sick feeling about going into a job you hate. Hes very uncomfortable there. We don’t know what to do because we just moved into this house that we are renting with his sister and brother in law (we’re not on the lease. We moved in together to save $$ so we could buy a house), but have the option to move to our hometown where we met and my mother lives and work for old employees there. There’s no doubt he could get a job there, like it’s a 100% thing he could. We don’t want to pack up again and do that, but we don’t know what else to do!! Were so stumped. And upset.
Post # 3
If it were me, I would move back to the hometown. Having a miserable work life makes the rest of life miserable. Moving is tough, but at the end of the day its better to be happy about your job, knowing your supporting your family, and being able financially to have a life outside of work. You have to do what is best for the two of you even if you have to leave his brother behind, its rough, but your not responsible for them, just yourselves as a unit.
Post # 4
Thanks for replying! The plan would be to go home for a couple months because it’s a big ski area and super busy and stay with my mom, while paying bills at our home that we share with them. Then when spring comes, the first company he was supposed to work with is hiring big time then for golf season. Sorry I didn’t clarify that. I just want to be financially stable and happy for once and same goes for him. I’d rather him be happy and us poor, then be unhappy and really poor.
Post # 5
I would move back to the hometown. Being miserable at your job is something that I know personally…it effects every aspect of your life. Your relationship could even suffer from it.
Post # 6
@mackenzie810: I agree with tksjewelry. The most important thing is that you’re both comfortable where you’re living. If someone is so unhappy in their worklife, then that unhappiness has a tendancy to trickle down into other aspects of their life.
Moving is really tough and stressful but so being miserable everyday at work. I’m sure if you explain to his sister and brother and law that things are just not working out and you have to do what’s in the best interest of you and him then they should understand! They might be a little dissapointed but if they care about you two then I’m sure they just want the best for you as well.
Post # 7
If you’re not really tied to where you are and he can easily get a job in your actual hometown, what’s there to stay for? I’d pick up and move again.
Post # 8
Thanks ladies! We really couldn’t move permantely we would be staying with my mom And
paying the bills here at this home because his sister and bro in law couldn’t afford this place on their own. We split everything directly in half. The resort he was supposed to work at is more of a spring season restaurant and where I grew up and we met and worked together is a winter seasont hoe of place. He’s going to go to a couple other places here in town and maybe find something that will make him happier. This girl needs to find a job too. I applied to a couple places.. A vet office and a bank, so I’m waiting to hear if I get interviewed.
Sorry if spelling and grammar is poo, I’m on my ipad and it’s so hard to type on this thing!