- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
ok heres the story, we both work two jobs he works probably about 15hrs a day, me about 17-20hours a day 6days a week. he works it for extra money i work mine to just get by, yes i made credit card mistakes and trying to save my mothers house from foreclosure…so now im in debt up to my eyeballs…so anyway….my FI seams to be having a mid-life crisis, hes very distant. his birthday is next week i was going to plan a paintball get away with me him and friends and family (he didn’t know about the friends and family going) then he tells me last night he docent want to go because he has to work, work work work that’s all he talks about is work! (i had to call everyone and say its off) Then the other night we were at his Aunts house and his brother and sister-in-law were there (they just got married in July) she started talking about babies and all then his Aunt asks us when we are having a baby rite away after the wedding or what, if we got pregnant the night of the wedding he would be 36 when the baby would be born.. then the sister-in-law says “i dont want to be old and have a baby you should have some soon” (talking to me) but im guessing my FI took it to heart and has been talking about it a lot now.
i told him i was pregnant before (2mts, when i was 19) then i had a miscarriage because i’m rh- I told him i would need to see a special OBGYN if we were to have children so i could get the rogram shot (spell check that) or find out what blood type he is, im concerned about if i get pregnat with a rh+ baby if there will be problems ive been reading and Dr has told me about complications with pregnancy even death for mother/ baby if the mother is rh- and the baby is rh+ im not ready to die..i would rather adopt a baby then think “maybe i can have my own” plus with him being in his 30’s already does that lead to more birth defects and such?
hes also upset about his hair is thinning really bad and wants to move the wedding up to this year (in 2 mts) because of it..(we cant but hes thinking of anything) hair plugs (i told him no- they look bad) and then suggested him wear a hat for the wedding… hes now a lot calmer with that idea in his mind, but he seams so stressed i dont know what to do, i really only see him 2x a week for dinner (at 8pm) because we both work SOOOO much…but need the money…what to do what to do…. sorry i needed to vent and maybe if you have some advice that would be awesome….
ugh sometimes i want to rip my own hair out!