- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
so my SO and I were talking about marriage and what it is and what we expect from it. My SO said he sees it as a graduation or a prize, like the relationship is so good, these people deserve to be married. I said I agree, but it’s also just realizing you found the person you want by your side for the rest of your life. He said he feels like some people just want the graduation or prize without working for it. He loves metaphors, so he started saying it’s like if you found this horse you absolutely love and you want to buy it. He says some people just buy it without learning anything about it or how to take care of a horse, and then they end up realizing they might not want the horse after all or don’t know how to take care of it. He said he thinks if you are gonna buy a horse you really love, then you need to learn all you can about the horse and how to take care of this horse before you buy it. At this point we are talking in general, but I take it to the personal, of course, and I ask, “So are you still learning about your horse and deciding if you wanna buy it, cuz you’d think after 3 years, you’d know a lot about this horse already.” He, then, of course says, “well I already learned what I need to know about this horse and I decided I for sure am going to buy it, but there are some things I have to take care of before I can buy it. You can’t just buy a horse without preparing financially to buy it and for all the expenses it takes to keep up this horse and take care of this horse.” By this point, I’m just so confused. lol. I’m like “okay so you wanna trade in your car for a horse?” lol just kidding. okay but seriously, so I think he was saying he has to be financially prepared, not just for a ring and a wedding, but to be a husband. He has said this before, so I’m pretty sure that’s what he was referring to. Anyway, after our conversation, he had to be somewhere in a hurry so he left mid conversation. Of course, I can’t just leave it at that, so I text him that the horse is feeling sad because it doesn’t know what is taking so long and it has to wait at the stable while all its other horsey friends get bought and how the horse is starting to wonder what is wrong with it that it has to wait so long. Also, the horse keeps thinking he is almost gonna buy it and then he realizes he wasn’t that close to buying it afterall, and it makes the horse very sad. He said that text made him feel bad… We are very very weird to be having our marriage discussion in terms of horses. lol. But needless to say, he started calling me his horsey after that. ugh! lol.