Post # 1
FI and I were trying to decide how to do a small wedding….What did you do? We were thinking that we still want a photographer, the ceremony will be at the river in a historic town, then a nice dinner at a nice restaurant on the river as well. Maybe having cake…
How did you do it?
Did you still have someone do your hair and make-up? I was thinking of staying at a B&B the night before the wedding with my MOH and Flower girl (daughter)….
Tell me your timeline from the night before your wedding and everything involved..Please:)
Post # 4
We had a wedding of 30 people. I still had my hair and makeup done. We still had a reception at the venue with cake and dancing.
I was considering staying somewhere else the night before but my MOH was my SIL and we aren’t super close so I stayed at home with my husband. We had a rehearsal dinner the night before.
It was basically the same as any other wedding. Yours sounds like it is smaller though but I think it could still go the same way.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
I’m still planning (obviously :P) but I wanted to throw in that I am getting my hair done even though it’s a small wedding… I don’t know how to do my own and don’t want to stress! I’m leaning toward doing my own makeup, and myself and the bridal party are staying at my mom’s house the night before while the boys will be in a hotel.
We’re still having a photographer, but it won’t be professionally catered and there won’t be a pro wedding cake either.
Post # 6
Thanks for the reply’s! We are going to have 20 people.
@msdragon: Where did you get your wedding cake then? I was thinking of having one made by a bakery still, but FI thinks it’s a little much for only 20 people.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
@TequilaSunrise: I’m going to be making it — just a small one-tier cake! We’re having a dessert buffet so not everyone will be able to have our “wedding” cake, but I plan on having cookies and squares made by myself and a few family members, and I may grab a few grocery store bakery cakes if things are too sparse.
I think a bakery cake would be just fine for your wedding, if you kept it pretty simple. Or, you could do a smaller cake buffet with a few different kinds rather than having something custom made!
Post # 8
@TequilaSunrise: Cake makers will have a minimum order, normally a dollar amount. Mine was $80, for wedding specific cakes I think it gets higher. I paid $600. You might have better luck with a bakery than you would with an independent business due to your small wedding size. Gotta do some research and make some calls. Even if it’s not a big, fancy wedding cake, it would still be nice to have cake with your guests at your wedding.
Post # 9
@TequilaSunrise: We are having a small wedding 40 people at our house. I am still getting my hair and makeup done. I am making cupcakes for everyone instead of a cake. We will order food from a restaurant and just have someone go and pick it up. We are going to have a photographer; but he is just starting out his business and will take the photos for free. I haven’t figure out what we will di the night before; I would imagine that I will be staying at home with my fiancee. We will probably have a housefull of out of town guests. I’m trying to keep everything casual.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We had a small wedding (less than 35 people, including us) and did most of the traditional “wedding” things. We did everything at a gorgeous bed and breakfast. Mr. LK and I stayed at the B&B the night before the wedding. Our B&B set us up with a pair of massage therapists to come to our suite the night before the wedding and give us a couples massage. Best idea ever!
The morning of the wedding Mr. LK and I had breakfast together, and then split up to do our individual things. We invited our guests to join us for the entire day. 15 guests joined Mr. LK to shoot a round of sporting clays at a range near our B&B, and I had 10 ladies join me in the bridal suite to hang out, do hair and make-up (we had pros for each, but some girls did their own). We had music on, told stories, watched a little football, had lunch served in the bridal suite, and generally had a wonderful time. My DOC ran the show so that I could just kick back and enjoy the day. It was wonderful. Mr. LK and I did our first look at 3pm, followed immediately by our photos, photos with the bridal party, and family photos. The ceremony was at 5pm and the party started about 20 seconds after the ceremony ended. The party was a dinner party. We did cocktail hour with passed hors d’oeuvres followed by a 4 course plated dinner with wine and beer pairings. We had an impropmtu first dance that most guests never knew about, and closed out the night with cigars and scotch on the lawn.
Post # 11
I just had a super small wedding – 6 guests only. Night before we stayed at home. Got to the salon as soon as they opened for hair/makeup, and photographer met us at the B&B for our 11am ceremony.
After the ceremony and lots of pics (http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/eeeee-pro-pics), we went to a local restaurant for lunch (got there about 1). We had a cake, which was really just the top cake layer (8″) since there were only 8 of us total. Then everyone went their separate ways! We stayed in a local hotel and roamed the city as our “mini-moon”.
We only had the photographer at the B&B/ceremony. I would have liked to have him capture the whole day, but our plans were so sudden it was all he could do.
Post # 12
10:00 – Arrive at synagogue with maid of honor and dude of honor. Flowers to be delivered. Hair and make-up artist to arrive. One of us works with the maid of honor to decorate the synagogue while the other gets hair and make-up done and gets dressed. Dude of honor sent off to get challah for the blessing over bread.
11:00 – Photographer to arrive to take “getting ready” pictures.
12:00 – Ceremony.
12:30 – Blessing over bread, followed by formals of all guests. (With only a dozen guests, that worked.) Photographer leaves after formals, as we did not see the need for professional photos of people sitting around eating.
2:00 – Reception luncheon starts in the private dining room of a restaurant. Toasts were done at a convenient lull. We skipped other traditional reception activities (dancing, cake-cutting, bouquet and garter tosses), though slices of cake were provided for dessert. We had dancing and a cake-cutting at our at-home reception.
4:30 – Reception luncheon ends.
The schedule was thrown off a bit when the hair and make-up artist got caught in traffic and showed up a half hour late, which resulted in the ceremony being delayed by half an hour. However, everything else proceeded without a hitch. And the guests got so caught up in chatting and catching up with each other, even with no entertainment, that we pretty much had to shovel them out at 5:00 when the restaurant wanted the private dining room back for dinner.
Post # 13
We are still planning but are only having 30 guests. Its going to be a DW in florida so we are staying in rental homes, i will stay with my fiance the night before because i know i wont sleep otherwise! I think we’ll have all the ladies in one house and the men in the other for getting ready, just for fun. Ceremony will be at 5.30 on the beach. Guests will head over to reception venue for cocktail hour while we take photos, we’re having a dinner reception at a restaurant with a private covered pavilion on the beach, no dancing planned but a band will be playing so if it people want to dance they can – i just didn’t want people to feel obliged and it be awkward! We are having a professional photographer for four hours, but he is pretty affordable. We have booked a classical guitarist for the ceremony and cocktail hour. I will have my hair and makeup done (florida humidity – i still want to look pretty into the night!) but everyone else is doing their own. We are having cake but only because it works out cheaper than paying per person for dessert, im not sure if we’ll do the cutting the cake thing or not though.
We wanted to have a special day with all the things we want, without worrying too much about how many people are attending. We have cut back on alot of things and stayed mindful of having a low-key affair. For me, i want it to be relaxed and no strict itinerary but still beautiful. Good luck! 🙂
Post # 14
All of your weddings sound so fun and intimate! How much are you all spending on these if you don’t mind me asking? I never thought about how I would feel without my FI the night before the wedding. I’ve gone nearly 6 years of waking up next to him and whenever we are apart we both sleepy terrible…Hmmm maybe both of us staying at the B&B would be more fun;)
Post # 15
We planned our wedding in roughly 2-3 months. In December I got my dress and we tried to get a court house wedding arranged but our city doesn’t do that. So we got a list of justices of the peace and arranged to have the ceremony at her house. Decided right away that we were going to Applebee’s for the reception because of my dad’s restricted diet. Applebee’s was the only restaurant I knew he could order a full meal that he liked so that was a no-brainer.
In January we bought our rings and DH’s tux. All my dress alterations occurred in January as well. Towards the end of January we double checked out guest list (only 8 people) to make sure everyone would arrive.
Beginning of February (2 weeks before wedding) we got our marriage license. The week before the wedding we bought our cake, picked it up on the wedding day. It wasn’t an actual wedding cake – we just went ot the grocery store and said we wanted a round cake with strawberry filling and red flowers, lol. Nothing fancy at all but it was delicious and just enough for 8 people. Also on the wedding day I did my own makeup and hair – I actually didn’t even know what to do with my hair til that morning. And then…had our wedding! All our pictures are from guests, we didn’t hire a photographer.
It sounds simple when I type it but we had a lot of little frustrations along the way. And the total cost, I would estimate a bit over $4,000.
If I had thought things out, I would probably have arranged to pay most things in installments but at the time I wanted everything out of the way so I paid the full amount for everything as soon as I bought them so our checking account depleted pretty quickly as we were paying for the cost of moving to a new town and bought a new car at the same time.
Post # 16
We had to downsize our wedding really quickly due to some unforeseen circumstances. We had about 18 people at the ceremony and 14 at the reception. We made it a whole weekend with everyone which turned out to be a ton of fun. Our ceremony was on a Sunday and we arrived in town at a nice rental house on Friday. We did a cook out as a sort of “rehearsal dinner” on Saturday night.
Our ceremony was in a gazebo in a park and I still wore my dress but my husband and the guys that stood with us (I had my brother) wore suits they owned. We then drove to a restaurant downtown for a small cocktail hour and a dinner reception. I still wanted a photographer and my normal hair stylist offered to drive in to do my hair and makeup. We also had a small cake with cupcakes for everyone. We don’t regret paying for such a nice dinner and still having cake made by a baker.
Also, my husband and I stayed at the same place the night before the wedding and it was great because when I woke up early to start getting things ready, he woke up immediately to help.