So, how do you tell a vendor you don't want to use them?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
42157 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

SilverWire:  If the issue s budget related, just say so. “We love your work but our budget does not allow us to choose you as our photographer.”

Post # 3
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Hi Mr Photographer,


Thank you for responding to my inquiry. Unfortunately your services are out of our price range.


*thought this isn’t an etiquette issue but I could be wrong. I didn’t say this to all my vendors that I chose not to go with unless we had gone back and forth numerous times. They are used to people inquiring. 

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Post # 4
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

If you really liked one of the more expensive ones, you can either talk to them and say “hey I have a lower quote but liked your style more. Could you work with me on pricing?” Or you can just email back saying “thank you for your time but we have decided to go with another vendor”. 

Post # 6
3653 posts
Sugar bee

Once I made  a decision I sent an e-mail thanking them for their time and saying that we decided to go in another direction. I got a few semi-hassling e-mails back, from one photographer who I thought was obnoxious from the beginning and one guy at a talent company (obnoxious, too), when I decided not to book one of their bands.

Post # 7
957 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I don’t think you need to especially mention that it’s out of your price range if you don’t want to. I had this happen to me and I just emailed back and said politely ‘thank you very much for your help but I’ve decided to go with a photographer’. 

Post # 8
4750 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

SilverWire:  Photographer here, I really really appriciate when people take the time to follow up with me and tell me even if they’ve decided to go a different route. I am an advocate of being 100% honest about why you are choosing someone else, but how else are we supposed to know? When people email me to let me know they’ve gone chosen someone else, I will usually email back and ask them who they went with. It’s less about being nosey and more because I truly want the feedback/prospective of who I’m being compared to.

Just be polite about it, thank them for their time, and let them know that you went with someone who is more in line with your budget.

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