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I feel like it is the same post-wedding, so when I reply to that question I just reply "The same as before ... but I wear more bling" .. it usually gets a laugh out of people!
@Ms Mini:Hilarious! I love that response!
We don't anticipate much change after the wedding either. We've lived together for 3 years now, and we're still ridiculously in love, and excited to spend eternity together! Why mess with perfection? ;-)
@twocatcupcake:I LOVE your avatar, aww! :)
Yes I would be rich too. I don't really mind the question though, it's just a natural thing to say to a newlywed. And honestly I think I'd be a little upset if no one asked me. But yeah, married life is WAY better than engaged life. No wedding planning, now we are 'smug marrieds' who think we know everything and are better than everyone else :)
Actually, it does feel a little bit different though I didn't expect it to.
We didn't move in together until we were engaged. And we were engaged for two years.
The thing that feels different about it now is that we became a *family*. Not just a couple of people living together.
I can tell...he's more devoted now. Not that he wasn't devoted before. But he takes care of me more now. And vice versa. Hard to explain but it does feel a little different.
I get that question a lot also, but i think it is just people's way of creating small talk ya know? Not much is different for us either. We lived together the whole time we were engaged.
@ms mini i love your response! haha
I respond with Married? huh oh ya- he is already cheating on me with his textbooks! lol kinda corny but whatever ;-) He is in podiatry school so he always has his face in a textbook or a pillow!
I really hate that question. I'm not sure what people expect you to answer to that.
It doesn't feel different for me now because we are still living apart and have never lived together to begin with. Now if I get this job that I am interviewing for next week, then we will be living together very soon. Things will definitely be different because this will be new for both of us.
I usually say "Exactly the same!" and that gets a laugh out of people. They're just looking for small talk, that's all.
When someone is actually interested in a real answer and presses further, I say it's mostly the same on the surface, but it feels different. We feel more grown-up, more permanent, more like a family.
Same here! People keep asking. We lived together for 3 years before we got married. I love calling Mr. HW husband now though. So one thing that has changed is that we keep making up new nick names for each other. So life is exactly the same, but I do "feel" a bit differently. It's hard to explain to people in passing, but marriage and committment is so sexy. So yeah, the joking around is slightly different and I just feel a tad sexier about our relationship. But I don't think I would actually say any of that to someone if they asked.
Married life has been different for us even though we were living together before the wedding. Things have become more "serious" now that we are married. Talks about our future, our careers, and family, are more serious now because this is all for real.
I get that question alot and the funny thing is, DH and I are in a LDM, have seen eachother 3 times since the wedding 10 months ago, and have obviously not lived together...so, when I get this question, all from people who know our situation, I really just want to say, "Oh, well you know. Going 10 months and only seeing your husband 3 times goes for a FANTASTIC (insert sarcasm) married life. Thanks for asking." The standard answer is, "Well, I'm sure it will be great once we're living together, but for now I'm still enjoying having the closet all to myself." lol
My husband has a great response.
"It's going good. How's it going for you?"
It's just chit-chat. People know you're recently married, so it gives them something to say to you. No different than them asking "how are you?", they are just being polite and are expecting a generic affirmative response.
I don't mind the question at all - I am loving married life so I tell people so (perhaps not in so many words!) All that waiting, anticipation, planning - this is what it was for!
(of course I wouldn't mind a nickle for each time the question was asked of me!)
@jedeve: LOL!!
it's been the same for us too. we moved in together 1 year before the wedding, so there hasn't been any fights about putting the toilet seat down, putting the cap back on the toothpaste tube, or who does what chore. but, similar to Theresa90405, i do feel that he is more devoted, which is always good :)
I hate this question but I understand why people ask it. I think I hate it because people expect that you are going to have some great answer...but I always just say that its the same! Even though it is does feel slightly different. I agree with others that it feels "sexier" and things are more serious and we are more committed and caring towards one another. A small example is my husband has been pulling his weight more when it comes to taking care of the house. We have also created a new budget and had more serious talks about our future, where we want to be in a few years and even very serious conversations about having kids, etc. I love marriage. I find it so comforting, warm, honest, forgiving, everything. It is so much better than being engaged because there is no stress revolved around planning the wedding!
@Theresa90405: I agree! We lived together for the past 3 years and I didn'T think anything would change but I also feel more cared for. In a heightened state of love may be a good way to describe it.
I always resoond "It's the same as engaged and living together life, except I have an extra ring on my finger and we have a dog!"
i didn't expect to feel different and things really aren't different for me. we moved into our first home a week after we got engaged last year and i've been in wife mode ever since! :P
DH didn't expect to feel different and for him, things are different (in a good way!) :P
he told me the day after our wedding that his vows and saying them aloud made him have this huge epiphany (not that he didnt think about it before) just how much he wants to take care of me and how much he is officially responsible for my well-being and happiness and how he's going to upkeep everything he said every day!
i call it a wedding/honeymoon high but he's been overly considerate and thoughtful, he's so much more emotional and considerate than he's ever been before (which was sweet enough already) all of his thoughts words and actions just depict everything i heard in our promise to each other that day<3 we'll see how long it lasts :P but i'll take it!
I've been saying "Eh" and giving a shoulder shrug. It makes people laugh and lessens this expectation that we're some perfect couple who're getting ready to buy a house and have kids (which is what all our friends who got married at the same time as we did are now doing).
@hotwings: I love that you said this! I always thought being married would feel kind of boring and square, but it is very sexy :)
I don't know when people will stop asking me that question, but I honestly don't mind. Although my husband and I lived together since 2007, and just got married in August, I have to say that it does feel different! It feels so much more special, and I feel very mature. Its also nice knowing that we are not "living in sin" anymore as some would think we were when we were not yet married...
I thought it would feel different but in reality it is not. We are still the same people in the same relationship we always had. We just added a legal title to it.
Haha I know! Everyone asks us that! And not only once, but it seems like the same people have asked us multiple times.
Hahah! I'm married nearly 3 months and still get, "So, how does it feel to be married?" all the time, as does my groom. How the heck are you supposed to answer that? I usually say something like, "Basically the same but a little bit sweeter," which is entirely true. The other day, finally exasperated with the question, I said, "Oh...didn't you hear? It didn't work out. But I don't feel bad. It lasted longer than a lot of Hollywood marriages." That might be my new stock answer.
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If I had a nickel for every person who's asked me that... I'd be rich! But here's the thing - it's the SAME! We've been living together since January. We still work the same schedules, have the same 'date nights'.. our routines haven't changed. Is it supposed to be that different? Am I supposed to be overwhelmed with lust and constantly want to focus on nothing but being a newlywed? LOL
Did you feel different after being married? Or did you expect to?