Post # 1
To start off, it has been a long time coming. We met in April 2010, got engaged January 2011 and pretty much this whole year and a half has been a struggle. I have two children (son is 4 daughter is 8) he has one child (12 year old daughter.) In the house we lived in, there are 2 living rooms. Well, he would make the kids stay in the other living room and play while we were in our living room. I didn’t like that but I went along with it….He always yelled at them every time they came in “our” living room, he never played with them or showed them love. He would always be sweet with his daughter but never my kids. I have asked him many times to try and be more positive and happy because my kids don’t need a negative person around them all the time. He treated his exes kids just the same as he treated mine too…He is grumpy and so defensive no matter what I try to say or how I say it. I just finally got sick of all the bad energy in the house and I told him I am leaving. It is sad because we did really have a family life here and it was good some of the time..But it was starting to get to the point where I literally was resenting him and I knew it was time to leave. No matter how much I loved him, he loved me, or whatever, I knew I had to do it. He was my best friend and that makes it harder. Sometimes I don’t know where my strength comes from…But I know that you only live one life and I will be damned if that one life is filled with hate and unhappiness. He has been married twice in his past and both of them left him for other people or because they were not happy. I truly hope that he figures out that he is obviously the problem and he needs to fix it before he goes and wastes more time with someone else..I feel bad for his daughter too…I don’t understand people sometimes!
Sorry for the out-of-whack rant! I had to get it out….
Post # 3
I am sorry to hear that it didn’t work out, that is always hard. But good for you for being strong enough to do what is right for you and your children.
Post # 4
I am proud of you for following you gut and knowing there is a better situation for you out there! Thank you for sharing, it will be more of an inspiration than you will ever know 😉
Thinking of you during this difficult time!
Post # 5
I know its hard to leave but i’m so glad to hear that you did. By doing that you truely showed your children how much you love them. You’ll find someone that will love your children as if they were his own. 🙂
Post # 6
Thanks guys! I am such a firm believer in doing what your heart/gut tells you and I think I lost myself for a while and I just accepted things how they were even when I knew better. Talking to friends helped a lot because they always tell me the truth no matter how harsh it may be. They told me that I was much healthier, happier and outgoing when I was with an old ex of mine years ago…and they told me that ever since being with my current ex, I have just stopped caring about myself and I had lost a lot of self worth. It is a good feeling to know that I am strong enough to do this…I could have just continued waiting for him to change…but I want to take control of MY life NOW.
Post # 7
Leaving is hard to do, but I proud of you for putting your children 1st.
Post # 8
My mother was with a man from when I was about 2 until I was 12 who treated me like crap while he treated my younger two half sisters (his kids) wonderfully. I used to hate going home and I’d take the bus a stop or two after mine so I’d have to walk and it would take longer to get home. Even if it was -20 degrees out, which it was a lot of the time during the school year. He too would yell at me for being in “his space” and I was often sent to my room for no reason. He’d play and cuddle with my two younger sisters in front of me all the time while I very rarely got affection from him. I would NEVER tell my mom, but I am still kind of resentful and angry that she stayed with him for so long. My point is, I am proud of you and happy you left this man for the sake of you
r children. Children shouldn’t be treated that way or made to feel like they’re unwanted. Don’t regret it for a second 🙂
Post # 9
Your children deserve a man who will treat them as his own, sadly your partner did not and you as a mother will always put her childrens happiness first. You have made 100% the right decision, and I hope one day a man that wants to be their father and your husband will come along soon – and above all want to play and be part of your childrens lives!
Post # 10
I am SO proud of you! It kinda choles me up because it is SO hard to do and it is so good hearing that you have strength. Your kids are very very lucky to have a smart, strong mom.
Post # 11
Oh you all are so sweet! Thank you so much for all of the responses 🙂 I know I made the right decision. It was very hard but I know my life will get better and I believe it all happens as it suppose to. I am happy to start new again!
Post # 12
So brave of you to do the right thing, for yourself and your children. Good for you.