- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
Looks like I only made it to #108, because SO proposed last night, February 9th! I’m officially engaged.
I’m not sure if any other bees felt/feel this way, but it doesn’t seem real. I was awake last night not believing that it had actually happened. I’m thrilled, but I was so taken by surprise, and it just feels surreal. I guess I could have imagined it a hundred different ways, but as long as I am engaged to my best friend, that’s all that matters.
As a background, we’d been together for 16 months, I’m 30, he’s 35, and we started talking seriously around the year mark. I had been asked to give him my ring size so I could forget about it and have it be a surprise. I hadn’t heard him mention anything more about it – but we still continued to talk marriage, we’d been house shopping. I figured it was going to happen at some point before summer but I really didn’t think it’d be so soon.
I started having a feeling it may be this weekend when he wanted to make plans for dinner before I went away (I’m going away on business on Valentine’s Day, so I was sad to miss that and my birthday two days later). He wouldn’t tell me where we were going. So I had a little bit of a funny feeling since about Tuesday. I said to my friend, maybe. But I was trying not to get my hopes up, even as I drove over to meet him.
When I got to his house I was a few minutes late (we’d had a foot of snow dumped on us the night prior). He asked me to come inside, which I thought was odd as I assumed we had dinner reservations. But I went along. He was acting so odd. No one was home, but he didnt’ seem eager to go get going.
He is super, super shy, so this makes it even more adorable. He asked me if I wanted a hershey kiss. I said yes. He asked how many, and I said two. He was so hesitant, he walked over to the bar cabinet (where the ring was hiding), and pulled out a kiss. He brought it over to me, handed me the kiss, and then before I knew it, he was down on one knee. I turned away, and started crying. (silly me!). He had to tell me to turn back around, I was so surprised. He asked me to marry him. I said yes through tears. I was so overcome with emotion because I love him, and it didn’t really quite feel like it could be happening!
I made him put the ring on me and he said we needed to get going so we weren’t late. We drove to a restaurant (not the one I was thinking that we usually go to for birthdays, anniversary) and when I walked in my parents and his parents were there. They had never met! His parents knew this was coming. He had asked my father’s permission a few weeks back (he had the ring mid January) and had called to arrange this dinner earlier in the week. I was so surprised that he had called my father to arrange this. He’s so shy, so I was really touched.
I’m still really in disbelief. Sorry for the long story. I didn’t think I’d be engaged before I was 31, so he just made it by 7 days. We’re still thinking Sept 2014, but we will talk more once we let this all sink in. I just want to enjoy this for a bit.
Very sincere thanks to everyone on the boards for your thoughts over these last six or so months. It’s wonderful to have a community to go to for advice and good wishes. I wish you all wonderful happiness in your own lives.
If you are waiting, I wish you patience and send you love. When it does come down to it, it doesn’t matter if the proposal is quiet or extravagent, planned or unplanned, – all that matters is that you are taking the first step to committing your life to someone you love. I NEVER thought I’d find someone that I love and trust so much, and I’m so blessed and lucky to be engaged to my best friend.