- 5 years ago
Hi bees! I’m a lurker of over 3 years (and have been in “waiting” for about two years).
SO and I have been together for about 6 years, but just moved in together about 6 months ago, and I said I would like to be engaged asap, and upon moving in, he said it will happen soon, and then said it will be within the next year (so in the next 6 months). But the thing is, a couple years ago he hwas very weird about marriage in general, and we set and then did not follow a timeline (he now says he just wasn’t ready then, and felt like we were rushing it — which i have to agree, and now he is ready and we are in the right phase to do this).
SO has always known I want to be involved in the ring selecting process, and has told me he has zero interest in picking it himself (he has also said before that he thinks jewelry is confusing in general).
Recently were chatting and he asked a question about our future wedding, and I made some related comment on how I can’t really address it because we’re not engaged yet, and that’s not in my control, which is frustrating. And so, I can’t answer his question because I have no idea when I will be proposed to.
He gave me a hug, and a kiss, and said to “please give it a little more time” so I agreed.
Then a few weeks passed, and we were discussing non-diamonds after learning about conflict and blood diamonds, and I said that the more I think about it, the more I realize I want a moissanite as opposed to a diamond. He said he doesn’t believe me, and I insisted it’s true — we talked it about it on and off over the next couple days, and finally I sent him a link.
Then he told me he looked at moissaniteco.com, and looked through a few pages of rings but it was overwhelming…
Then I asked if I should give him a note explaning what I like setting, stone, cut, etc., and he said Yes
Now I feel (and hope) this will speed things along (the original year time line was also about saving up) because the things I like now are like 10% of the original prices we were looking at… so my question is, is it CRAZY that my hopes are now really high?
Has he already been thinking ” well, I have about a year, this doesn’t change anything ” and it’s not going to change the timing?
He said he read it, but said nothing else… everything has been going really well with us, and living with eachother also he has been super affectionate, but he didn’t say anything about the note, and I am just making myself crazy I think.