- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2012
So I had hired a woman I work with to be my day of coordinator. I have worked with her for nearly 5 years and she tends to have her stuff together. She’s helped her mother coordinate weddings before and seemed like a good affordable choice for someone like me who is on a pretty strict budget. We discussed what her role would be (Mainly pre and post wedding set up and break down, and making sure people knew where they needed to be pre ceremony. After and before these tasks she was a guest). She had just started going through a divorce and I knew money was tight, so it would be a mutual benefit deal. She would relieve my day of stress, and I could relieve a little of her financial stress.
Then, before the ink dried on her divorce she (39) started dating a 25 year old bouncer at a club, whose father molested her a child (she admitted as much) and now she is keeping her young child around this man. The bouncer boy friend is in the middle of his own divorce and is apparently discussing wanting to start a family with her. (She has three kids already, but three fathers… honestly she didn’t SEEM like she had her stuff together dispte that, like she’d finally found some maturity, not to hate on single mothers etc.) Of the last three months she hasn’t worked a full week and has basically stopped talking to most people at work (including long term friends) and the actual work work she’s been doing is seriously sub par. It’s hard to describe in full here, but in more ways than I even want to go into here, its a downward spiraling train wreck. And honestly I don’t want her touching my wedding with a ten foot pole. I don’t need whatever life drama she’s having rearing up at my wedding.
I didn’t “fire” her exactly. I did tell her some aunts had stepped up to take over. I’m not expecting my money back and she pretty much said she didn’t think she’d be able to pay me back. Problem is, I don’t know if any of my aunts will actually be able to help! So now I’m down money and can’t afford now to hire someone new and my aunts who actually live in the area either have younger kids, are flakey, or are the guardian for my grandmother. I don’t know what I’m going to do other than do this myself, and now I have the stress I thought I didn’t have to stress over. Ugh.
I just really needed to rant, thanks ladies.