Post # 1
(Interesting preface: Google Chrome’s spellcheck does not recognize moissanite.)
When I first learned about this stone, I was under the impression that it is a diamond-like stone that costs less because it is manufactured in a lab. Therefore, I assumed that women with moissanite rings have them because they wanted bigger stones but their fiances couldn’t afford larger diamonds.
After reading many of the debates, it seems that women think moissanite is a completely separate stone from diamonds, and that people choose to buy them because they like them better than diamonds.
However, on another thread, many people could not distinguish between diamonds and moissanite.
There was also that thread about the woman who wanted a larger ring than her fiance could afford, and so she had mentioned moissanite…and people got upset with her for wanting to pass her moissanite off as a diamond (though I don’t know if that was her intent).
My question is in the poll. I don’t think it matters what kind of stone a person has, but I think people should be honest about the stone they do have.
Post # 3
Please, nobody take this personally!
I think that, while there are a few people that chose moissanite for its properties (more brilliance, no blood-mined etc), the majoirity chose it because this way they could afford something that appears to be a bigger diamond than they would have otherwise been able to afford. This is corroborated by the fact that most people decide to pass it off as a diamond.
I am not judging people for this: I don’t care what people wear, I don’t care what people claim they wear, as long as they are happy nothing really matters. I am just stating what I think.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I think most people choose it for the cost benefits and the other differences they might like are icing on the cake, but I don’t think there is anything wrong with chosing one in order to get a bigger stone. I do, however, think that if you make that decision, you should be comfortable with it, so why would you lie? If you feel compelled to lie, then you are actually uncomfortable with your choice or unhappy with is and then you should reevaluate that situation. There’s no reason to lie. I wouldn’t tell people something white gold or silver is platinum. I don’t think you need to go around directly informing people, but when the topic comes up, I think lying is inappropriate. Besides, maybe you could end up convincing someone else that they want moissanite too.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Moulder + Scully = <3 That is all. 🙂
Post # 7
I think moissanite can be ALL the things you describe in your post and that’s why it turns into such a heated topic on Wedding Bee lol!
I believe that moissanite is/was a real stone, but it’s so rare and expensive that the only one you can actually buy is created in a lab.
I hadn’t heard of moissanite until I came to this site, either.
I agree that people should be honest about the stone they have. I guess that’s what irks me about moissanite sometimes. I am not a fan of passing ANYTHING off as something else. Whether it be a fake LV or Coach bag (so easy to tell knockoffs, though).. or whether it’s smiling and nodding when a stranger comments on your big, beautiful diamond (which is actually a moissanite). Yeah this is all first world problems, but I am not a fake person and I would not pass something off as something else.
I like the ladies who are proud of their moissanite and will gladly correct and educate the people who say ‘wow, I love your diamond’ etc.
People will argue again and again that moissanite is not a diamond simulant. Fair enough.. but why does a prominant seller of asha/moissanite have a URL called betterthandiamond.com if it’s something that is not comparable to a diamond? That irks me a bit. They should leave diamond out of it IMO if they want people to think of it as something other than a stone that mimics a diamond.
But anyway. In the end I suppose all that matters is that whatever is on your hand makes you happy. I just get irked when people pretend that something is actually something else… and this goes for all areas of life. Fake happy ‘high on life’ people. Knockoff bags. Just a pet peeve of mine. I am who I am and don’t pretend to be anything else.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
@peachacid: I know, right? “And then we’ll do it doggy style so we can both watch X files”- Bloodhound Gang. Dear The 90s, I miss you.
Post # 9
I’ve got a pretty simple 1ct equiv. moissanite e-ring. I heard about it long before I came to the bee. I wanted one because I didn’t want him to spend over $1K on a ring – I don’t think diamonds are worth what people pay for them because they aren’t rare. I don’t give a shit if someone else only wants a diamond and would only be happy with one, because that’s their preference. It’s really pretty simple: I like white sparkly stones and this was a white sparkly stone that was affordable and has a REALLY cool backstory to it (I call it my space rock, even though yes I know it’s lab created).
I’ve told all my friends and family what it is. Two of my friends since then have gotten engaged with moissanite rings and couldn’t be happier. But if a random stranger tells me I have a pretty ring, I just say thanks. No need to be the weirdo that starts lecturing a stranger about stones. I don’t feel like I need to wear a sign around my neck that says “IT’S A MOISSANITE” or anything.
If you want a diamond, rock a diamond. If you want a moissanite, rock a moissanite. Whatever makes you happy – I say you go on with your bad self.
Post # 10
When I was looking for a stone, I wanted a diamond. I wanted a diamond because it was clear and sparkly and that’s what I was looking for in my engagement ring.
But when I started looking at the prices I couldn’t believe it – the type of ring I wanted was too expensive and my SO would have had to have saved for longer than I would have liked.
I’ll be honest, the first time I saw moissanite in a thread I thought ‘fake diamond’ and considered it to be more like CZ (which I have in my RHR and it’s just not sparkly enough).
But then I saw a picture of it next to a diamond and instantly I wanted one. What was the reason why I changed my mind? Because it looked almost identical.
The fact that it looks similar to diamond was the initial reason why I wanted it. And I’ll be honest, at first I was going to pass it off as a diamond because I didn’t want the ‘ew – fake’ comments to be said about me. But then, the more I learned about it, the more determined I am to tell people what it really is because I’ll be proud of what it is.
It was found in space (awesome) it sparkles more (awesome) and I got more bang for my buck (awesome). In fact, I think I’ll have to tone down how much I rave about it so I don’t offend my friends who do have diamonds.
I have seen some stunning diamonds and I would definitely not say no to one of those bad boys! But I’ve also seen some rubbish ones and IMHO the diamonds in my friend’s e-ring don’t even compare to the quality of my moissanite.
That said, if I had the chance to buy a diamond that was far superior to my moissanite then I’d go for that, too.
I think it’s all about getting the best quality for your money. Sometimes moissanite is the best choice, and sometimes it isn’t!
Post # 11
Until here, I would have assumed any clear stone is a diamond. Unless it is as big as a grapefruit, then I assume it is not. And I cannot tell the difference between a moissanite and a diamond anyway. And frankly, I don’t care that much. I think everyone needs to get off their high horses (“Well, mine is a real diamond, not some fake simulant” or “Well, I obviously care more about the planet because I didn’t get duped into paying for some dirty blood diamond and got mine perfectly made in the lab”) No. No one cares. If YOU like your ring, I don’t care if it is a ring pop. But at the same time, don’t tell me your cherry ring pop is a 50 carat ruby when it isn’t. If you rock your ring, be it moissanite, a diamond, a piece of glass or sugar, be proud of it. If you are trying to “pass off” your ring as something it isn’t, perhaps you should reevaluate why you care, and what it is that YOU want. Then everyone else can move on with their life and get over this idea that something that is important to them just has to be the same as the important things to everyone else.
Post # 12
You’re missing an option. I don’t think you SHOULD or SHOULDN’T tell anyone anything about your ring.
I think it’s super rude for people to ask about your ring, so I don’t think you should cough up that information. No one expects you to say it’s a white sapphire and not a diamond. I don’t understand why the debate is with moissanite specifically. That being said, I don’t think it’s right or wrong to pass off your moissy as a diamond. Seriously, WHO CARES? The only time it’s wrong is when a guy tells a girl he got her a diamond and it’s a moissy instead. And that’s only because your FI shouldn’t be lying to you.
Personally, I intend to get a moissy. Will I go around announcing it to every one I meet? No. That’s ridiculous and I don’t want to sit there and explain what a moissanite is. Have I already discussed this option with my friends who have diamonds? Yes. Will I tell post a pic of my ring on FB? Probably. Will I also add a caption that says, “FYI, it’s a moissanite!” No. Why? Because it’s no ones business what my ring is made of and how much it may or may not have cost.
Honestly, I don’t need anyone to know how much my FI spent on my ring. It’s a lose-lose situation. If they find out it’s moissanite, not a diamond and that he didn’t spend a lot, they’ll judge him for not spending a lot – some people might be like, oh wow, what a great idea – but others will probably be like – oh he doesn’t love her, he didn’t spend as much on her, he didn’t buy her a real diamond, it’s so tacky, etc. If they think it’s a diamond (and from the ring I want, it would be a $30k ring), they’ll say – what wow a waste of money or that’s so gaudy or whatever the case may be. But, I DON’T CARE. It’s my choice, my decision, it’s what I want. Personally, I like the moissanite better than diamonds for a multitude of reasons that I’m not going to list here because they’ve been rehashed on this site a million times.
So while I never judge someone for getting a moissy or a diamond – because to each, his own and I wouldn’t judge someone for getting another gemstone either – I also don’t think that I should have to tell people what my stone is made of just because they’re likely to assume that it is a diamond. No one is getting hurt by them assuming it’s a diamond and me not correcting them. It’s not like someone is selling my FI a moissy, telling him it’s a diamond, and charging him more for it. THAT’S when it’s NOT ok to clarify what stone you’re buying!
Post # 13
And to add – for all the people who say that moissanites are lab created and think that’s a NEGATIVE thing – would you EVER tell a child created through IVF that they’re not a REAL CHILD because they’re LAB CREATED? I mean, seriously, the only difference is that scientists have figured out a way to recreate the environment in which that stone is created. How is it any less “real” of a stone just because it was created in a lab??
Post # 14
@futuremrsk18: I added an option for you. And I was thinking of changing the wording anyway, but I think it should stay. I mean it as in, within the context of a discussion of your ring, should you mention that it’s not a diamond if it comes up?
And hopefully people will know that despite the words not being there…lol
Post # 15
@futuremrsk18: Yes, I make it a point to tell IVF children they are fake.
LOL great analogy.
Post # 16
I don’t think anyone needs to tell anyone about their stone. If I had a moissy and someone asked me if it was a diamond I’d say no because I’d be comfortable with the choice we made in the stone. However, I don’t think people with moissy have to go out of their way to tell people it’s a moissy – if people assume it’s a diamond, let them. I don’t go out of my way to tell people mine’s a diamond, and no one has ever asked me other wise. I don’t really think it’s anyone’s business what’s on my finger. If they like the way it looks great tell me, if they don’t say nothing.