So idk what to do!!!

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Bee_Ni:  Do you have cousins, uncles, aunts, etc. that you aren’t very close too? Maybe some family you’re inviting that you haven’t talked to in years? It’s hard to cut family members out of the guest list but you should really only invite the people you want to invite and not feel obligated to invite anyone just because you’re related to them. Not really sure if that is the case for you or not but just my 2 cents 😉 

Post # 4
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291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Bee_Ni:  Also, yay! Another Phoenix bride!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Bee_Ni:  i did the ABC list but found out that its mean and you dont want to know you were on the C list, just a fill in seat… i have a few first cousin i cut in mine – i never see them unless someone dies…so they are out…think of who “has to be at my wedding” and who “i would like at my wedding” the people on that list look at and see , well i was never close to Aunt Pam and my mother hates her anyway… Sealed

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I went by a loose rule that if I hadn’t had any direct communication with them in the last couple years then it probably wasn’t essential that they be invited. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

we didn’t invite kids (unless they were close family), didn’t give everyone a plus-one (unless they’re engaged/living together), didn’t invite cousins who i rarely see or am not close to. i didn’t invite any friends who no longer had a significant role in my life- that was kind of tough, but if our friendship consisted mostly of facebook comments, they were not invited.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Can you cut out some friends, co-workers? 

Extended family, like cousins, second cousins, great aunts/uncles? 

We are just inviting people that are “in our lives”,not a “part of our lives”.  that’s how we looked at it for our guest list. We also excluded co-workers.  We work with them, we leave it at that. We don’t hang out with these people outside of the office, so we don’t feel they should be involved in our intimate day. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Bee_Ni:  cut down in tiers 

First teir: Parents – if one parent comes they should all come 

Second teir: Siblings – same rule 

Third teir: Grandparents – see above 

Fourth teir: Aunts and Uncles 

Fifth teir: Cousins 

Sixth teir: Second cousins and others that are less directly related 

*add in friends to the list based on their importance! They could be teir one if that is the kind of wedding you want! 

*only allow plus ones to those in serious relationships 

*if you get rid of some kids/teens then you must get rid of all 

*make sure that invites are given to those who will make the day better and not worse 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I would start with the absolute essential people: parents, siblings, granparents. Then branch off to family that you see on a regular basis. After that, I’ve been keeping the people that, if they were to have a wedding and didn’t invite me I would be upset. Anyone left is up to you.

Also remember, it’s your day. Don’t worry about offending anyone. You’re not having a wedding for other people, you’re having a wedding for you.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We’re having a very small wedding.  We’re only inviting parents and siblings (and their families) and a few very close friends.  That makes it simple.  🙂  I like the the suggestion of not giving everyone a +1!  That will really help cut down a lot.  And then cutting out co-workers and people you’re not really close with will help as well.  It’s impossible to make everyone happy, so just invite the people you want to be there!  🙂

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