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You definitely need a job before you move. I say, do it!!! I always wanted to do exactly what you're doing, but my dreams were squashed when I got serious with my husband. We thought about moving to a differnet state when we bought our house last year, but decided to stay closer to our parents for now. But, our next house, we WILL be moving out of state!
Do it :)
Theres nothing wrong with scoping out jobs, apartments and areas. I took the leap across the country, and soon partly across the globe and I couldn't be happier! Great things and opportunities happened ;p
i moved to dc where i didn't know anyone because i got a job there and it was the best decision i've ever made--do it! you can interview for jobs first before actually moving though. could you go visit for a week or 2 before actually moving and scope out jobs/schedule interviews for then?
GO for it!! I moved from Tennessee to Maryland to get a new start and it was the absolute best thing I have ever done. It wasn't easy and I cried a lot at first, but I made it. You can do it!
@finnaroo: I could go out there for interviews and stuff but not for 2 weeks since I still have my job here in Alabama and I would hate to quit and not know if I'm gonna have a job at the end of those two weeks. I could probably do like 3 days out there for interviews and stuff.
@BoiledPNut: I have a very stong feeling that there will be many many tears shed by me and my fam when I go but it's all for the best! Can't wait to experience all the new stuff.
@pec1216: To be very honest, I had to go to counseling before I left. I was terrified. But I have zero regrets.
Do it! I moved to Hawaii from Boston, where my whole family is, and it was awesome! I now live in Florida. (Didn't know anyone in either place before I moved) I'm really close to all my family, and I keep up with them by flying home for holidays and weddings and chatting on facebook (and obviously phone/email).
I think that is a great idea! You have friends there so you won't be totally on your own, and you aren't moving out of the country, so you can call your family all you want :) Go for it!
Depending on your style, I would recommend:
Uptown: Pros: Lots of restaurants & bars and tons of young professionals. Very close to downtown. Tons of apartments and townhomes. The Katy trail. Cons: traffic can be a pain because of said restaurants and bars. Also, it can be a little yuppie-ish.
Near White Rock Lake: There are great neighborhoods all around the lake, which has a 10 mile trail around it. If you like biking, running with the dog, etc., it's lovely. The area tends to have a little more of a free-spirit/laid back vibe. Lakewood is one of the best areas in Dallas, but it's also pretty pricey. Cons: there are some rough areas that are not too far away (of course, this is kind of true everywhere in Dallas). There are not as many apartments; most have a smaller number of units, but you should still be able to find something pretty nice, depending on your price range.
North Dallas is also pretty nice and safe, but it has more neighborhoods with single family homes v. apartments. The Village is a huge apartment complex that is very close to Northpark if you like good shopping.
As for moving to a new area, I'm all for it. In my early 20s, I moved from Texas to Oregon because I wanted a change. I am SO glad I did, even though I'm back in Texas now. In this market, I would definitely get a job first. Most apartments will accept you with a letter from your future employer stating that you have an offer and at what salary.
You should do it!
And if Dallas doesn't work out to your liking, come to California! ;)
@smores: THank you so much for all the information. I know that most of my friends live in North/Northwest Dallas, like Carrollton and Addison so I would like to look around there but being that I'm not familiar with the area I don't know what good rent it compared to shady "why is that so cheap?" rent...ya know?! My mom is an apartment manager and when I told her I found some places for like $650ish she was shocked at how cheap it was. However, she runs a very high end complex in the south so she's on other side. I only need a one bedroom since it will only be me and my dog coming out there and any visitors can sleep on my pull out. So for a one bd/bt is $650 cheap, like I should worry or is that fairly common for a one bd/bt?
@pec1216: DO IT! But don't move (or quit your current job) until you have a new job in the Dallas area first!
Where you live will definitely need to depend somewhat on where in Dallas you get your job. For example, if your job is in Plano (suburb) you probably don't want to live in Uptown as your commute every day would be pretty long.
I second the locations that smores commented on. Irving and/or Richardson could also be good. You start getting much farther out than that and it is much more suburbia with lots of neighborhoods and families. Uptown is a little pricey (at least as I understand - DH and I didn't look there because I didn't want to commute that far).
I live in Addison (practically right on Addison circle) and I really love this area. DH and I pay $1250 a month for a 1br, 1.5 bath + den but we live in a really nice "upscale" complex. I'd bet most anything with an Addison address will run you at least $750-$800 a month though but you can find things for less with Dallas or Carrollton addresses that are REALLY close to Addison.
@Mrs.KMM: Addison and Carrollton are the area's I'm looking in right now because that's where my friends are and one friend that is looking into a job at his company for me. Could I message you about a specific complex to see if you've heard of it, good or bad?
Definitely do it! All you've been through I think you definitely deserve the fresh start!
I LOVE Texas and I'm sure you will too!
Not too familiar with Dallas b/c I grew up in Austin, but I do know quite a few people that live there and have lived there!
And I totally agree with FutureKMM that you should hold out until you have a confirmed job.
Glad to hear you're doing well though.. and excited for the next update! =)
Go for it! Five years ago, I moved from NJ to NC, leaving behind all my friends and family. I won't lie, it was rough at first being homesick and making new friends, but it's so freeing to leave everything behind and start over somewhere else. If I hadn't moved to NC, I would never have found my husband :)
omg so jealous! do it!!!!!! I lived in Texas for awhile and it felt awesome! life is short!!!!!
I say do it! I moved to Tennessee from Louisiana 2 years ago and it was so great, and it really taught me a lot about myself and how independent I thought I WAS vs how independent I would become.
Also- I met my FI about 6 months in and it couldn't have happened at a better time in life for me. If you can find a job, have an open mind and just KNOW that there will be days you will miss home ( which is OK), I say go for it!
@amnystik: Thank you for the encouragement! I need it! I'm really excited about this new move. I think it will be a great thing for me to do and honestly it will be the first thing I've done for myself in a while! My mom keeps telling me not to stress and everything will work out. I've spent the past two days on job websites looking for stuff because I agree with you all in the fact that I need to have a job out there first. I'm hoping that I can find one soon and get out there for an interview so I can look for a place to live and also let my current job know I'm leaving. They are not going to be happy at all but I think that if I give them at least a month or so notice that should be enough time to find and train my replacement. I can't wait to update you guys when I get a job out there! Eeeekk I'm so excited!
All of you guys are so amazing! I'm very lucky to have such an amazing support group of Bees! I need the encouragement because every time I think about missing little league games and dance recitals I question going but I have to tell myself, "pec1216, they aren't your kids and you need to do something for you!"
I think it's a great idea! It doesn't have to be forever - just a fun adventure for RIGHT NOW and see where it goes! With your pup by your side, you can't go wrong! Good luck!
I wish I could do this. When my ex FI and I broke up I wanted to move as far away as possible but I couldn't because I have split custody with my sons father. I've run into my ex FI a few times and it still feels terrible, I still want to move. I had to change so many things about my life to avoid him... we have everything in common including 77 friends on facebook we both hang out with a lot. I will be leaving the 1st chance I can with my son. I say do it and I'm jealous ;)
@HappilyEverAfter54: My ex and I have over 140 facebook friends in common so I know where you're coming from. I see my ex almost weekly because of who we hang out with. But I'm happy to say we are at least civil towards each other but I just don't want him around when I start dating again and I really don't like seeing him with his new girl. My mom was in a similar situation that you are in and she wanted to leave so bad and finally did. She just needed to get away and I think it really helped her.
I think Texas is going to be awesome and I'm really excited to make a change. I found out last night that I will for sure have a place to stay when I go out there thanks to some of my family friends so the apartment search can wait till I'm there with a job. Now I'm just hunting for that job!
I did tell my step mom about my move last night and my little brothers and sister freaked out! They all started saying, "NOOOO you can't move!!!" It was pitiful but I explained that there was nothing holding me here any more and that sissy just needs to get away. I also reminded them of Skype so we're good I think. The fam prefers I move to Nashville since it's 6 hours closer but I know no one up there and at least in Dallas I have friends and family. Thoughts and prayers from you guys would help tremendously in my job search and in my mental preparation for telling my current employer. That is one thing I'm not looking forward to!
after I graduated college I moved across country to seattle. I didn't have a job or an apartment (but I had some friends there I could crash with). it was hard at first but ultimately, it was the best decision I ever made!
if/when I move again (with my husband), I want to be sure it is to a town where we already have friends. that was the hardest part-- meeting new people.
@pec1216: GO FOR IT! :) Change in the everyday routine is exciting! And really, I've moved to three different states, and once you do it, you feel like you can do anything!
Well I have an update on the moving situation...My family friends out there said that I could stay with them until I get settled and find a job so YAY! And then last night I was talking to my old sorority sister and she lives in Fort Worth and said that she has a house out there with two roommates and one is moving in January so if everything works out I can just move in with her! I'm so excited that everything is falling into place! Oh AND I think I found someone to replace me at my job...an old friend from college that is looking for a more stable job. :) Still haven't told my current employer because I'm nervous I won't find a job in Texas and will have to stay here... :(
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Okay if any of you know me, you know my story, engaged happy bride-to-be... broken engagement...single loving life! Now that you're caught up I've been toying with the idea of moving. And when I say moving I mean, a whole 'nother state. I considered a couple of cities here in my home state of Alabama but really want to get out of Bama. Not for any other reason than just needing a fresh start. I can't go anywhere here without someone knowing my ex or running into him and his new girl. It doesn't bother me at all to see him but I feel like the dating pool here is now diluted with my relationship history. Also my job isn't my dream job. I've been here for 4 years and I feel like I've gotten all I can out of it. I love my co-workers (sometimes) and hate to leave them but I need more. With all that being said, I have my eyes and heart set on Dallas!
I have always wanted to live in a bigger city with sports and just stuff to do. I have several friends and family out that way, two very close friends in Dallas that would watch out for me so I'm not worried about that at all. Also I have some family friends that said they could get me a job fairly quickly. My only hesitation is that I'm such a family person that I know I'm going to miss my siblings events but I keep telling myself that I need to do something for myself for a change. I need this!
So my question to you guys is do you think this is wise? To move to a new city where I know only a hand full of people, don't really know the area so kinda blind on where to look for a place to live. Also my friend said he wanted to wait to get me interviews until I'm out there however most of the apartments I looked at online require you have a local employment to get qualified. Catch 22...need a job to get an apt, don't want to move out there without a job...
Any of you that live in the Dallas area I would love to hear from you! Especially about the areas that would be safe for a single 24 year old to live. Oh and I will be bringing my pup so I won't be totally alone! :) I'M SO EXCITED!!!