Post # 1
Guess what? I don’t care! Guess what else? I TOTALLY LIED ABOUT NOT CARING.
Do you think he will forgive me? Has anyone cut their hair and had their partner HATE it (having expressed his/her hatred before the fact…)? I’m going to get it cut how I want regardless, but I’m worried he’s going to…say something mean? Say something not nice?
Any commiseration here?
Post # 3
@peachacid: My husband prefers long hair. As such, I keep it long. I think it’s a small thing. If I know he finds something ugly and I have a choice in the matter, why would I choose what he hates? Sure you can do what you want but he doesn’t have to like it or pretend to.
That’s just me though.
Post # 4
@peachacid: Does he consult you before he gets his hair cut?
Post # 5
I have looooong blonde hair and was getting sick to death of it. So, I went and got about four/five inches cut off. Which is a big deal for me but I really needed it.
Then SO said it looked ‘hacked off’ at the ends and that he really liked ‘my long blonde hair that was all wispy at the ends’, ‘I looked so different to everyone else’ etc.
He was really disappointed, but now that the shock has worn off I think he probably likes that it looks neater and it is still LONG by anyone’s standards.
Plus, it will grow back in six months. And in the meantime I can actually put it up in anything other than a ponytail, and when it is in said ponytail it has a nice shape!
So, moral of the story is men get over it, change is just a shock to them. As long as you aren’t going for a mowhawk!
Although, I would advise that if he has specifically said he “would hate you having your hair like that” I would perhaps re-think it… has he said that? Or is it just a feeling?
Hair grows back though!
Post # 6
Is it possible he is just not picturing what you want to do?Are you cutting it super short?
Once I told FI I was getting highlights and he said he really didn’t want me to. When I came back from the hair salon, he was shocked. He was picturing weird 90’s chunky super blone highlights, and that is what he didn’t want. Maybe he will like it once it is done haha.
Post # 7
@MrsPanda99: Yeah, mine prefers mine long as well. HOWEVER…I haven’t had it short since like 2004, when I didn’t know how to blow dry or straighten it. So I’m thinking, since I have acquired those skills (however shakily), it will be different. And he should want me happy, right?
I am thinking of something like this:
And then I will look like this lady! lol
Post # 8
@julies1949: No, and I know, and I always say the same thing to people who post like this! But I know he has said he doesn’t like me with short hair…but see my response to Panda Panda.
Post # 9
@peachacid: My DH has expressed that he likes how it looks certain ways over others. But he always has something nice to say about how I look and my hair is only one part of it. He thinks I’d still be pretty with no hair at all! I’ve experimented a lot with my hair and he would never say it looks ugly! I think if you haven’t changed it much before, your DH just might not know what to expect! It’s good you’re going for it regardless!
Post # 10
I think I’d have a hard time getting my hair cut in a fashion my DH wouldn’t like. But who knows, if you do go through with it, maybe he’ll like it after all? Worse case scenario: you grow it back. 🙂
Post # 11
@peachacid: That’s really cute. You could always do the same style, but like an inch longer. that way it isn’t as much of a shock.
Post # 12
@peachacid: Good for you! I wish more women realized that their hair was their hair, not their SOs hair.
My FI doesnt keep his hair the way I tell him to (not that I tell him to keep it any certain way) so I dont think I should have to keep my hair the way he wants it.
Post # 13
Your relationship with your husband is more important than a haircut. He will be so happy to know how you really wanted to cut your hair but considered his preferences to keep him happy. What will make him happy is not so much about the hair but more about not going against his wishes.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2013 - Stillwell House
In the weeks after the birth of my daughter, I had stopped struggling to tame my curls straight, and had gone curly. The ex had the audacity to tell me that if he had known before we wed that I was naturally curly, he never would have married me.
My DH loves my curly hair, and has asked me to please not cut it. It is down to my butt now, and thick enough that it takes over 8 hours to dry naturally. Some days, I am tempted.
Post # 15
@peachacid: My DH likes long hair. For him, he finds short hair unattractive on women. It’s totally personal preference. I generally prefer longer hair too, and so I keep it long because I know he likes it. I guess I don’t consider hair a hill worth dying on. On occasion I’ve gotten a trim and it’s been shorter than I wanted, he ALWAYS notices and tells me it’s too short..lol.
Post # 16
@peachacid: I tell my husband when he gets up and washes and dries and styles my hair for me every day then he gets a say in how it’s cut!