(Closed) So.. I’m upset… about how he might propose..

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

he totally just smiled like that to throw you off…

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

maybe he plans to ask you before or after the game-or-maybe he just wants you to think that is when he is going to ask you

Honestly, I hope you wouldn’t say no just because of that, but I also don’t think he would do that to you if you have told him you want it to happen in a private area

sorry your having such anxiety over it all!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@RedRoses2013:  absolutely, think about it….he obviously wants the proposal to be a surprise- do you think he would have a big grin on his face if you guessed when and where he was going to do it?! of course not!

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@RedRoses2013:  So you would say no to the man you love just because he wants to show you his love by maybe proposing at a baseball game? Do you really hear yourself? The proposal is not about you, it is about you and him.  Yes it is not the proposal you are looking for but seriously he loves you he wants to show the world how much. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’ve always been of the opinion that if a man will 1) propose to you with a ring that you would absolutely hate or 2)propose in a way that you would absolutely hate that he either a)doesn’t know you well enough to be proposing or b)doesn’t care enough about your feelings to consider them when proposing, and in either case, maybe a marriage isn’t the best idea.

I personally love jumbotron proposals, but that’s just me. I can see how that would bother some people. Some people don’t like being the centre of attention. I’m not a big fan of Disney proposals, especially the super cheesy over the top ones. If that’s what you (you as in general other people) are into, fine. It’s just not my thing at all. I flat out told my BF if he did a Disney proposal I would say no. After that he kept joking that he was going to do this crazy over the top proposal complete with Disney characters and a pony smack in the middle of a Disney parade. (He didn’t, btw).

I would honestly recommend you sit down with your BF and have a calm conversation about why you would not want to be proposed to on the jumbotron. Let him know that it would make you really uncomfortable and probably cause you to have a panic attack.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

I bet asks before the game.

Let us know how it goes and try to enjoy the game!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Sassygrn:  Actually, I think this is different than not being the proposal she’s looking for. OP said she’s really shy and would be mortified/have an anxiety attack. If he, knowing that, went ahead and asked her on the jumbotron, then the proposal is not really all about them. Or. Something.

OP… he’s probably messing with you. 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Sassygrn:  and what about that proposal is exactly about “you and him” and not all about “him”?

the OP gets anxiety attacks over things like this for gods sake

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We went to a hockey game on our first date and some guy proposed on the jumbotron while we were there.  I told him right then and there (yes, on our FIRST date) that if this went anywhere, he could NEVER propose using a jumbotron.  It kinda became ‘our thing’ cause he knew just how much I would hate it.  He’s a huge sports fan and every time we went to a game, he’d tease that this was ‘it’.  It came to a point that I hated going to games cause I was always afraid he’d do it, even though he knew I would absolutely hate it.

 

In the end, he proposed at 2am on the top deck of a cruise ship.  It was just the two of us and you can’t get much more private than the middle of the ocean in the middle of the night.  He knew me well enough to know that’s what I would be comfortable with and it was perfect.  🙂  We didn’t even tell the family we were traveling with until around lunch time the next day so we could get a bit more time of our ‘private’ engagement.

 

Anyway, that was a REALLY long-winded way of saying that your honey probably knows exactly what you want and really does want to make you happy.  I’m sure he’s just trying to throw you off. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m willing to bet money he is just messing with you to throw you off.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I guessed how my SO might propose before it happened, in a ‘please don’t do it this way!’ sort of way…and trust me, he was NOT smiling. I agree with PPs that he is just teasing to throw you off.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Ops! I totally forgot to finish my thoughts! I meant to finish by saying your BF is probably just bugging you, and your propsal will probably be wonderful Laughing. I also fully agree with @allergicbee, if he does plan on the jumbotron proposal, it’s all about him and not about her. He’s not taking her feelings into consideration at all, and the fact that she could even have a panic attack. If I were in the OP’s shoes I would say no!

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