Post # 1
My FSIL backed out of our wedding months ago. I bitched, I moaned, I cried, and basically, I chalked it up to her being a young 20 year old who doesn’t get why dropping out of her own brother’s wedding via text message was rude.
This is the message I just got from her on Facebook.
“Well I’m sad this summer flew by and I didn’t get to see you, (fiance), or Ace partly because my brother has phone difficulties 🙁 Hope to see you guys christmas time!”
Um no. Your brother and I have had the SAME HOME NUMBER for three years. And you’ve called it before. So I take it she isn’t coming to the wedding, since it’s before Christmas.
I want to scream.
Post # 3
Don’t worry about her. I hate to say it, but she is just immature. I am twenty as well, but I know better than to do this!
I think she’s trying to “get your goat.” Just let it be. It doesn’t matter whether she is trying to hurt you or just unaware of her actions, you just need to focus on the positive: You are marrying the love of your life!
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Post # 5
Hmmm that does just seem odd and rude.
Post # 6
That is strange, she sounds very immature or just self absorbed. I dont know why she wouldn’t think of coming to the wedding, or (from your previous post) why it would be hard to be in it, when she doesnt even have to be financially responsible. What can you do but shrug it off…. I’d bother being upset if it were my OWN sister, but since its his, leave it up to him to chew her up if he wants to.
Post # 7
I’m just sad. I guess I always thought that people would be kind, be happy for us and WANT to see us get married. Especially family – but that hasn’t been the case. My parents were here on Christmas when he proposed – and that is the last time I’ve seen them (they live about an hour away). One of my maids of honor is away in officer basic and another was involved all summer in her brother’s wedding (she’s been awesome!) My older brother chewed me out because I didn’t invite kids (he has a 5 yr and 6 month old) and gave me a lecture about how “Of course I wouldn’t understand because I don’t have children”, my FSIL dropped out as shown here and now is likely not coming… but can seem to come home from college all the time when it’s other things, like Father’s Day or to visit her friends…
I guess with all of the things that have happened, I just don’t feel like that many people are very supportive. And it breaks my heart.