(Closed) So irritated…

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

how important is the bachelorette party to you? are the same circle of friends involved? have you discussed throwing a joint-bachelorette party?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Yikes!  That sounds like no fun.  Have you asked her about August?  Explained your situation?  This might be one of those situations where you just have to say no and hope for the best!

I do like mudratdectector’s idea of a joint-bachelorette party, if that is something you both would be open to.  I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this so close to your wedding…. I hate drama too!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

A joint bachelorette sounds like fun! I would go with that idea.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t  know how involved she wants her bachelorette to be, but it does seem challenging for you to be relaxing and celebrating at your own bachelorette AND winding down and finishing everything up for your wedding AND planning and participating in her party. I’m not sure how you can get out of it, but maybe just have an honest conversation with her about how challenging that would be for you – and if she does have it on the night before your party, maybe you end up delegating a lot of the responsibilities to the bridesmaids.

Do you guys have a lot of overlap in friends – would there be mostly the same guests at both nights?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Here’s a question – if you guys have her bachelorette party the night before hers, is she actually going to be willing to go to yours?  Especially if there’s any drinking involved, I can see her being hung over or tired and not want to do anything the next day and just totally blow you off.  Is that likely to happen?

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would tell; her how busy you are that weekend (right before your wedding, I mean, come on!) and offer maybe a weekend in June (if you have one) or one in August.  I don’t think you are being unreasonable.  At some point, I might even say, “You know, it looks like this isn’t going to work.  Perhaps you should have someone else plan it.”  And let them.  😉

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