Post # 1
So I saw on FB that Kelly Clarkson got engaged (I’m a fan, happy for her). She posted a pic of her ring, which is a gorgeous big yellow diamond:
Anyway I couldn’t help myself and said “Wow, Kelly Clarkson got engaged! Wow, geez that ring is huge!” (I wasn’t thinking!!!)
SO got very sensitive and kind of upset and went on and on about how she’s a millionaire and of course she’s gonna have a ring like that, and blah blah. I immediately realized what happened (I honestly was just exclaiming it like that as a girl, like “ooh pretty bling on a celeb I love!”) and so I said something along the lines of – it’s so big on her hand though it looks fake, it’s almost gaudy…etc. etc.
Anyway, he took it so to heart and on one hand I’m sorry I said anything because I don’t want to make him feel bad, or have him think I’m trying to make him feel bad or give a message/signal or whatever – I truly, honestly wasn’t at that moment – I was just excited for a celeb I like and have watched since AI and thought it was pretty, irrelevant to my own personal life.
On the other hand – it makes me realize if he has been looking for the ring, he’s prob realizing just how expensive they are, etc, and what he can afford, and maybe got a little defensive re: this crazy big very expensive ring.
Post # 3
all of a sudden everyone has a huge cushion cut diamond…. but anyway make sure if you get an oppourtunity to look at rings with him you only show him stuff in his price range so he doesn’t freaek out that he won’t really be getting you what you want
Post # 4
Guys are so weird about these things. I guess you really don’t notice it until you get to the ‘engagement is imminent’ stage. Men and their pride!
My SO does admit that the whole experience gets stressful. Or he looks visibly more stressed nowadays. Girls look at this stuff all day but most guys don’t care about diamonds or how big they are or how they’re cut. Maybe he thought that’s what you wanted?
Lots of guys feel pressured to drop a stack of cash for a ring. Just let him know you’ll be fine with a more “normal” ring. 🙂
Post # 5
@sealevels: I’ve already told him I think Moissanite is really cool and showed him the website awhile ago before we were in that engagement is imminent stage. He hasn’t asked for any input and I’m not going to say anything unless he asks. I did however accidently find a screenshot pic of a ring from a website (kind of like an ad) on his phone when we were taking pics: see my post here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/accidently-found-a-good-sign
He knows me better than to think I want some extravagant ring – but I still think guys can’t escape the societal pressure. Makes me feel bad for him that he’s stressing – especially when I’m just excited to get engaged/married, and not worried about the ring/dress etc. (I mean, I’ll want pretty things but that doesn’t mean expensive! I’m a couponer for goodness sake, haha, I like bargains!)
Post # 6
My SO is the same way. We’re on really tight budgets and I know he worries about the cost. I’ll make comments sometimes when seeing pics like that about how crazy the ring is, how I’d be afraid I’d take someones eye out with it, etc. I’m trying to ease his stress by reminding him that I don’t like huge expensive rings, but I think sometimes just bringing up rings stesses him.
Post # 7
I think it may be an American thing with the “big” ring. I would just keep expressing how you would rather have a home, no debt, and be responsible than a big ring. Hell you can get a big ring if it’s something other than a diamond. Very cute that he cares so much.:)
Post # 8
Um..where is she supposed to fit her wedding band?!?!