Post # 1
SO and I talk a lot about “moving forward” in our relationship. We have discussed kids and marriage. We went to a wedding recently and I said something about how our wedding would be like. he agreed with what i suggested and SO said i made him the happiest guy by saying that.
He knows that I’m ready and I told him that I feel like I am in limbo waiting around for him. his response was that he understands and is working on it. I told him I did not know what that meant. And he said it means that hes working on it. I didn’t push further for an answer because obviously he didn’t want to elaborate.
i don’t really know why I’m posting this. I know you bees dont know what it means either. Only he knows and I should ask him. just needed to share this because it was frustrating at the time.
Sorry for typos blame the iPhone.
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
Lol don’t worry, vent away. My BF said something similar to that when I first brought it up, so I know it’s damn frustrating because there’s not much we can take from a statement like that!
Hope your guy really is working on something for you <3 as it stands, I know mine isn’t doing anything really right now but I trust him in the long run :3
Post # 4
@LoveWillLightTheWay: “Working on it” sounds a lot like saving up for a ring. I think a lot of women (not saying you in particular) don’t realize how difficult it can be to set aside enough money for the ring of a woman’s dreams. It can take months or even years. I can see why he’s not elaborating. When you talk about money as it relates to a proposal, it can kind of take the romance out of it.
How long have you two been together? It sounds like he is emotionally ready to be engaged, but not financially ready. I would cut him some slack if that’s the case.
ETA: I should probably note that I’ve dealt with the same thing, so I know how you feel.
Post # 5
We have been together for two years. I know around these parts its not a long time. However, I’m in my late twenties and he’s In his mid thirties and I would like to have a family one day. My brain goes from waiting patiently one day to thinking its never going to happen.
he has been complaining lately about not having any money. Which he used to never do before. He also told me he wouldn’t be with me this long if he didn’t think it was leading to marriage. He also told me that when he was buying my birthday present months ago (he got me jewelry) he kept looking at rings for me. So all I can do is hang in there and trust him That he is working on it.