Post # 1
… and I am DREADING it!
Let me list the reasons:
-The bride is FI’s aunt, whom I barely know
– I will only know FI’s mum, aunt and 18-year old cousin, not the huge number of other people there
– It’s in a town over and I don’t drive
– I’ve never been to a hen do before and don’t really know what we’re going to do except drink!
– I rarely drink – I usually have about two before I stop.
– I’ve never been on a night out that hasn’t ended quite early, like midnight, but knowing the people going it’s likely to be an all-nighter
– I do not want to get dolled up in heels and then have to walk around in them til 3am!
But on the other hand, I really should go. These people are going to be my family, and just like how we’re going to go to their wedding and regularly visit them and their kids, it’s only polite and showing you care. I’m happy to go, but I’m worried that since I’ve never once been out for a hen party I’m going to make a fool out of myself, or get completely drunk because I’m trying to keep up with people who are more experienced than I am!
I could really do with some advice on how to survive this!!
Post # 2
Just stay within your limits! I’m the same way. Love shoes, don’t actually want to walk in them. And I cannot go over two drinks, or it is not pretty. Honestly, I don’t think you have anything to worry about. I don’t think anyone will comment if you aren’t wearing six inch heels. And saying no to another round is a lot more respectful than drinking yourself under the table trying to keep up.
Post # 3
Like kapalua67: has said – stay within your normal limits. Plan to have one drink every hour with water in between. So long as you are eating/have had a meal before going, this should not get you drunk, just loose.
Take this as an opportunity to meet more of your FI’s family and in a “let your hair down” setting. Hen parties sometimes have games, perhaps you can only call each other by specific, silly names “boobalisious” for example. Just go with the flow.
Remember that you will be attending this wedding in the future, which means that at the wedding you’ll have all of these new people you know! Then you can laugh about the antics of the hen’s party together whilst at the wedding.
At these kinds of things you only get out what you put in, so start telling yourself that you want to go and be willing to throw yourself into whatever activities are going on. It will only be fun if you want it to be, so don’t go thinking “I don’t want to be here” – because then it will suck.
Have fun! 🙂