Post # 1
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My fiance and I are not on the same page and it’s killing me inside. I’ve wanted to marry him for as long as I can remember. I waited five and a half years to get engaged. I never asked anything of him. I never asked for a big fancy ring, I’ve never wanted a big super fancy wedding. When I say these things, he thinks I’m just in a rush.
I have always just wanted to marry him with friends and family around and to take his last name. But to him, the wedding is so much more. He wants it to be fancier, with a big honeymoon.
Sure I’ve been wanting another vacation for years, and he said he wants to give that to me, but waiting two plus years for what HE wants and not what I want really hurts me sometimes. I just can’t get him to budge and I don’t get it. It’s gotten to the point where I wish we hadn’t even gotten engaged because it’s just made that desire to marry him stronger.
I’m watching these other men chomping at the bit to make their women their wives and most of these couples have been together a fraction of the time we have. I just don’t feel good enough. No matter what he says, I don’t.
Post # 3
I’m really sorry this is happening 🙁 I know how that feels because my first engagement was just like that, and it was really really hard. We ended up not getting married, and now I’m engaged again to a far better man. This time he is chomping at the bit to get married, and it makes things a lot easier for me. Of course I’m not suggesting you should break off your engagement, but I do think you guys really, really need to talk about this. If he really loves you, he’ll try to understand how you feel and reach some sort of compromise.
In any case, I’m sorry and I hope it gets better. xoxo
Post # 4
A little bit of a role reversal huh…you want something low-key and non fancy..and your man wants the big blowout wedding and honey moon? I can relate to you…because while I think most girls dream of that…I would be very very happy having something small. Maybe even a Justice of the Peace wedding and party afterwards. Seriously. We would’ve been married by now if my SO was okay with that. But he’s not…he wants to have a huge wedding, huge reception, honeymoon the works. Can’t deny the man his joy 😉 Haha but I’m okay with that I know it will be amazing and I want that also. I want both so whatever he wanted I would’ve been down with.
I think we fail to realize that men also “dream” of the day they marry their future wife. They probably didn’t start planning it when they were 5 like we have, but I do think they have a VISION of what they want their wedding to be like. I totally sympathize with you though…I hope you guys get it worked out but at least you know that you have your man’s heart and you WILL be marrying him. Hopefully sooner than later 🙂