Post # 1
A lil background here… Two of my friends recently got engaged. They got engaged about 2 months apart from each other. The girl who got engaged 1st is irritated that the other girl got engaged around the same time as her (she’s never come out and said it, but you can just tell). Like she always tries to bring it back to her wedding whenever people ask the other one about hers. They are getting married like 6 weeks apart from eachother next summer. Well that brings me to why I am so mad I could scream. I have been with my man for 3.5 years, longer than both of my friends. So all of our friends are always asking “when are you going to get engaged..” and they are asking him as well. We had a 4th of July get together with a bunch of friends. I had warned my BF that people were probably going to be hounding him since there is SO much wedding talk going on with two girls getting married. He’s fine with it, he can take it in stride. Well, today I found out from the 2nd girl who got engaged that the 1st one took my BF aside at the party, when someone else was questioning him about the impending engagement. Aparently, she explained to him that I don’t want to get engaged until at least NEXT fall (which would be AFTER her wedding) so that I can have the spotlight all to myself. Because it is SO much better to have it all to yourself. And I would be so much happier if he just did that for me.
-WAIT WHAT!? I have NEVER expressed this to her. I have said I am fine with waiting until it happens because I love him and am willing to wait. But NEVER have I said I want the “spotlight” on just me. I am NOT that type of girl. So I asked my BF today about it, he said well yes she did say that to me. But I didn’t tell you because I know it’s not true and would only upset you.
SO basicly my friend has totally over stepped her boundaries. Why in the world would she think it is ok to tell my BF when he should propose to me? It all comes back to the fact that she doesn’t want another person close to her taking HER spotlight away. I guess it’s a new rule now that if your friend gets engaged you can’t get engaged until AFTER her wedding?! UGH I am so mad right now.
Sorry girls, just needed to vent. I just can’t believe people sometimes.
Post # 3
Some people are unbelievable. I’m sorry you have to put up with this. Don’t you think she’s a tad bit insecure? I feel a bridezilla coming on……
Post # 4
I totally feel your pain, and am currently not engaged because of drama similar to yours. My SO’s sister is getting married in a month, and we just knew in our bones that if we got engaged before her wedding that she would lose her mind and pitch a mega drama filled fit. I wish we had just gotten engaged whenever we wanted without worrying about her, and I encourage you and your SO to do whatever you feel whenever you feel the time is right.
Good luck with your SO, and try to ignore what sounds like the beginnings of a dreaded “bridezilla” (I hate to use that word)! People will chill out on the engagement talk once a little time passes, trust me!
Post # 5
ohhh I totally don’t blame you for being mad! What she did was WRONG! When you get engaged has absolutely nothing to do with her – and as you said, you have been with your partner longer so you have every right to get engaged whenever you like!
Are you going to talk to her about it? Or are you just letting it slide?
Post # 6
It’s friends like that ( Selfish and not looking out for your best interest) you don’t need. I would re evaluate whether I want to continue a close relationship with this girl. She seems very vindictive.
Post # 7
Wow, what a ‘you know what’. I’d pull her aside and tell her that it was totally inappropriate to talk to your BF about the subject, and it was riduclous that she should mention a “timetable” that just so happens to keep you out of her “spotlight” till after her wedding.
Then I’d seriously consider finding something important to do the weekend of her wedding.. like washing your hair…
Post # 8
WOW what a witch! I have a a few friends who all got engaged within a few months of each other and a really good friend who got engaged after me and her wedding is before mine and I am so glad to have someone to go thru this with! I dont know what I would do with out her!
Post # 9
WOOOOOW! I CANT BELIEVE SHE WOULD SAY THAT TO HIM! That definitely was out of line, you have every right to be mad! it sounds like she might not be as good a friend you think, did you say anything to her about it?
5 of my friends got engaged the same time I did, one of them got engaged and married the same weekend haha and I couldn’t be more happy for them. You’re right. She probably is just upset that she doesn’t have the “spotlight” to herself, but in all reality its not just HER day it’s her and her FH’s.
Post # 10
Wow….how selfish! No offense, but that does not sound like a real friend to me
Post # 11
please tell me you are going to call her out on this. Or better yet, send her an e-mail telling her
“Thank you Thank you thank you for telling my bf that he needs to hurry up and propose to me because it would be just so cool if we were all engaged at the same time! Thanks to you, i think he is ready to propose now more than ever! You are such a good friend”
That will make her jaw drop, lol.
Post # 12
OMG! That’s not very nice. Maybe she doesn’t want anyone stealing her ‘thunder’, which I can understand, but I agree, she didn’t have the right to say that on your behalf… Even though you never told her!
Years ago when I was engaged (not anymore), I was calling my friends to spread the good news. Well, when I called one of my BFF’s she said: “Oh ya? Good. Hey guess what, I’m pregnant!!” I was a little upset but oh well.
Glad to hear you cleared it up with your b/f though!!
Post # 13
OMG… that is ridiculous, she sounds sooooooo selfish!!!! She’s trying to dictate when YOU will get engaged so it doesn’t affect her!! I hope you’re not in this girls wedding party, because that’s not a true friend. Most friends would be so happy for their friends to get engaged, and start planning a wedding together. Some people are so unbelievable, I can just imagine what type of bridezilla she will be.
Post # 14
I am so sick of females thinking that their wedding is their only “time to shine.” Does that mean you have no goals, dreams, or aspirations? God help me if I’m at my prettiest, smartest, and most accomplished on my wedding day. I mean, what does that attitude bode for my MARRIAGE?
Ugh. Sorry- I will step off my soapbox now.
Post # 15
I think your BF should propose AT her wedding. haha jk jk.
Post # 16
Wow that is crazy!!!! I think that engagements and weddings and everything should just kind of fall into place. I also think that when you and your friend group all reach an age everyone starts getting married and engaged all at the same time it’s kinda like the baby bug. I’m glad that a ton of my friends are getting engaged and that everyone is getting married. I’m the first in the friend group to get married and I never thought that would be the case since I was one of the lasts to get engaged. But oh well I can say that there are tons of times when I am way way more excited for my friends weddings than I am for mine because of how truely happy I am for them!