So mad/upset I am shaking

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

That is horrible and overwhelming, I am so sorry 🙁

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

Ughhh! People are so terrible sometimes!

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

@Pokemon:  Couldn’t they split up for that one night and your FI’s friend go to your wedding, and his wife go to your FI’s ex’s? Your FI was this guy’s BEST MAN, and you found him a job when he was facing hard times!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Pokemon:  I’m so sorry. People are fickle. At least now you know where you stand with these people and won’t have to waste another minute pouring more energy toward them. Concentrate on those who will make you a priority in return, and share in your happiness without pettiness getting in the way.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

@Pokemon:  Well I think that is a decent compromise on their part, while it would be great if at least one of them could attend both parts of your day, they would rather be together, which is ok too, they are basically newlyweds. And the ceremony is the most important part, and that they chose to be at for you! 🙂

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

Point # 2 – Friend who isn’t coming (for whom you Fiance was the Best Man)… and has decided to give his allegiances to Fiance’s Ex GF…

So be it.  Sh!t happens.  People break up, the world changes.  I know it hurts cause these two guys were once close… but that is how the cookie crumbles.  Friends & friendships change, especially as we grow older, marry, etc.

You hon, well you just have to suck it up and call it a day.

Point # 1 – Sibling.  Ok, I know my point of view isn’t always popular in this modern world.. but the fact is I am a believer in “traditional etiquette” vs modern.  Traditional is much more kinder, gentler, considerate for the most part.

And in traditional etiquette, those that are the closest to us… Members of the Bridal Party, and immediate Family (Siblings) who are adults… get a PLUS ONE.  Period.  They can bring whomever they choose.

So ya, if she’s over the age of 18… in my book she should have gotten the Plus One from the get go.

(sorry)

 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Read your UPDATE…

Well that is better than nothing… you guys won’t get to socialize, but he will put in an appearance (lol, with his very controlling opinionated wife).

So be it.

Maybe things can be patched up between the two guys down the road… maybe not

Sounds like they want to try.

Maybe it’ll be a case of just the guys in the future hanging out for beers and leaving the women at home

Sometimes that is what works best for a guy friendship… as sadly sometimes us women folk can’t get over ourselves long enough to see what is good for our guys

(lol, his wife sounds like a real plum turned prune)

 

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Pokemon:  Why do they need to be together all day? In those situations I counsel to split up for the day, husband goes to his friend’s wedding, wife goes to her friend’s wedding. And anyway, the guy’s friendship is longer than his wife’s.

Jerk. (The friend that is).

The sister is being immature too, but leave it to FI to deal with. ((Hugs)).

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

That sucks. DHs brother and sister didnt attend our wedding and it was really depressing so I know how you feel 🙁

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