Post # 1
I’ve been preempting our engagement for a while (especially after picking out the ring…) so have had plenty of time to look at reception venues in our area. I thought this would help with organisation but now that we’re on the official engagement phase it’s just become so overwhelming! We sat down together last night and have a good idea of guest numbers, but neither of us have strong feelings towards any type of wedding or venue or style…. I was hoping my more traditional groom would have certain opinions but no such luck!
How did you all manage to narrow down your search? Any tips on finding a “style”?
Post # 3
A Budget is helpful… its always good to think about where family/friends have gotten married that you’ve enjoyed or your favorite places as a couple…
Its hard to “unsee” venues that are too expensive so I would start with your budget and then go from there.
Post # 4
Start with a budget. Know how much you’re willing to spend and know what dates you want. Places like Wedding Wire and The Knot can help you find places within certain budget ranges. Then you start with the phone calls and emails.
Post # 5
Thanks 🙂 we’ve got a basic budget (or cost per guest that we’re comfortable with) so that does help rule out some places.
@KimmySumShuga: sadly we’ve only been to one wedding in our city (both only recently moved here) which also means we haven’t been out that much to find less weddingy places we like!
@Trilly: thanks for the links I’ll check them out!
Post # 6
@ms-tea: Okay great! Well yeah, then I say you two should start exploring! I would look on yelp or weddingwire like the PP stated.
Are you looking for a formal event? Modern? Traditional? Rustic?
Its nice to have a direction to go in when looking for venues as well.
Something that reflects you as a couple at the biggest/best party you’re ever going to host!
Post # 7
What do you want to remember about it? A big party with lots of dancing? An intimate dinner with close family and friends? This may sound silly, but we picked our venue because I wanted to have a separate area for a cigar/whiskey bar for the groomsmen. It also has an area that can be for kids, could easily accomodate a food truck, has lots of indoor and outdoor space, etc. Basically, we picked it for the logistics. It’s also a little more modern, which fit my aesthetic.
Post # 8
@ms-tea: I’m doing the same! FI and I have been together for a while, and I won’t lie, I did a lot of “researching” before we got engaged 🙂 (and had my ring picked out a year in advance!) I just booked my photographer, which is where I’m definitely splurging (he’s pricey for this area), but he is confident in his work and always has a good product. This was more important to me than taking a “chance” on a newbie.
Neither of us has strong opinions one way or the other on venue, but we really just want it to be a good party. Right now I’m thinking back to weddings I’ve been to where I had a great time, and what elements made it a great party (for example, the reception in a hotel where it is easy for guests to crash: encouraging them to stay longer). “Rustic” weddings in a remote location that I’ve been have been beautiful and fun, but guests tend to leave earlier because they have miles to drive to their hotel or wherever they’re staying, and the party ends earlier. Just something to think about.
Also, I have a lot of family coming in from out-of-state, so a hotel venue is more convenient because they can come a few days early, and we can have quality family time too 🙂
Post # 9
We had the same experience! I agree with the others that budget is the first thing to nail down. Next comes trying to decide on what kind of party you want to have. Traditional? Themed? Kid-friendly? Rustic? Vintage? Maybe browse on Pinterest and see if you have any reactions towards certain decor/looks/styles? Also, do you have an idea of what kind of dress you want to wear? That could help narrow things down too.
I knew I didn’t want to be on a beach (I’d get sand everywhere), in a garden or park (allergies, potential rain and bird poo paranoia), on a boat (I’d definitely be the one who trips and falls overboard), or a farm/barn (allergies again), so we were left with a ballroom. But I did know I wanted a great view. Once we started looking at places with ballrooms (hotels, golf courses, athletic clubs), we realized that these kinds of places are like a one stop shop for wedding planning in that they provide a whole checklist of items like catering, tables, chairs, linens, dance floors, etc. And the hotels will give you a complimentary room for the wedding night. Bonus. Plus, half of our guests are flying in, so we really didn’t want them to have to rent a car on top of flying in and booking a hotel, so we picked a hotel downtown that’s easy to get to via taxi.