- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
We finally tied the knot yesterday (7/7/12) and I couldn’t be happier to have married my best friend – he’s simply the best!
Nevertheless, the last two months I’ve be super stressed worrying about making sure that everything was going to be perfect. But no matter how much I worried or busted my butt to make things perfect, it quickly began to unravel on Friday (7/6) because of the forecasted weather; Mother Nature blessed us with 103* (110* feel temp) on our wedding day.
- Not that big of deal: Our ceremony was supposed to be outside on a golf course, underneath two weeping cherry trees (looked so romantic). And all I have of that now is a distant memory from a photo of chairs that were set up for us, which I took at our rehearsal dinner.
- After I got over the fact that it wasn’t possible to get married outside, the CC was very accomodating and set up the ceremony inside a portion of the ballroom. Wasn’t where I imagined my memories of my ceremony being – but that’s really unimportant in the whole scheme of things – most important thing was that we were able to get married in the presence of our family/friends.
- Big deal: Besides the fact that PMS welcomed herself into my wedding-week to exagerate things… We paid $2,600 for flowers (and they weren’t in abundance!) – not overly expensive, but not cheap. I received a confirmation document from the Florist a week before the wedding; everything was just right, with one exception and that was they had crystal-pins in “every” rose in my bouquet and I asked if they could do every other or something that wouldn’t look tacky. One change request, which the owner immediately replied by email and said that she agreed and would do only in the cream colored roses. (keep this in mind as you read below)
- We paid for and our vendor confirmed that my bouquet was WHITE and CREAM rose, stems showing, with crystals in the cream rose centers. I specifically even recall a face-to-face convo with the florist about the brides bouquet being larger than the BM; and all paperwork states white and cream.
- My bouquet was SMALL (same size as BMs) and ALL CREAM ROSES (no white as confirmed), WITH CRYSTALS IN EACH ROSE (not in every other, as confirmed)!
- Our BM’s dresses were in Guava (a David’s Bridal color) – the Florist had the color swatch I had provided her (beyond them already having their own) AND I dropped off ribbon for the BM bouquets IN GUAVA that I puchased from David’s. ALL OF OUR FLOWERS WERE ORANGE! Freaking orange! Our Mother’s wrist corsages and groomsmen had orange roses; those roses were specifically confirmed on our paperwork for “guava”. The only thing that they got right was the green spider mums.
I was so upset, I probably made an ass out of myself and looked foolish, because I really thought I was about to shed tears over flowers only moments before I had to walk down the aisle. I was pissed! Luckily for the Florist, they aren’t open on Sunday and I’ll have a chance to be calm and rational. I don’t know how I want to approach it. It’s not like I even care about the money part; it’s paid, so what can you do? But they are “supposed” to be a reputable florist, a perennial local “Best” winner, and rated highly on “The Knot” – so I feel like somehow we got jipped. My blood pressure increases when I start to think about it because I can’t grasp how or why they even THOUGHT that would match? Guava is not orange. Okay, enough about the flowers…on to the next glitch.
Cakery. Cakery we chose was awesome to work with; again, another local favorite with a very good reputation for moist, delicious wedding cakes, their unique cupcakes, homemade chocolates, etc. etc. We thought we were going above and beyond by getting a three tier cake (two bottom = 125 servings; top anniversary cake) and a candy buffet (as I am a candy buff, myself! haha). Our “Sweets ‘N Treats” Bar was a hit – there were even people taking pictures in front of it and at times a line of people waiting to fill up their goodie bags. And then there was our cake. OMG, I didn’t really actually see it until we went to cut it and I about cried on the spot (but didn’t). I could NOT believe that it was NOT the cake we ordered (thinking about it now makes me want to shed a tear – GEEZ!). Seriously? Was this a bad joke someone was playing on us? WTF? It was supposed to have a “Stucco” texture on the middle cake; I have no clue what the texture was, but it wasn’t what we ordered. The bottom cake was supposed to have a particular scroll on it – scroll, scroll? THere was barely any scrolling at all – it looked SUPER CHEAP for a $500 ($4 p/slice isn’t the most expensive, but it’s not like we paid $2 p/slice)! The anniversary top cake was supposed to have pearls around it; they were smooshed. The cakes was supposed to be in a “cream” color to match my ivory dress. The cake was BORING PLAIN WHITE ALL OVER! We rented a silver pedestal from the cakery for $35, it was supposed to be elevated – we didn’t get the one that we rented and instead got a silver platter, which only helped emphasize how small and crappy our cake looked. I was embarressed. Period.
We waited A LONG time to get married (12-years to be exact); so, we spared no expense – if we wanted something for the wedding, we went with it figuring we were paying for it overselves and only planned to do this thing once in our lifetimes. That’s what makes me so angry because we didn’t spare expenses or cut costs so we expected what we expected – and a lot of it didn’t happen thanks to those two vendors.
And lastly, we ordered our handmade favors on May 22; they said they would be shipped within 4 weeks. Okay, no problem; that’s plenty of time with some to spare in case there’s any problems. Time goes by… I email the shop owner three times before she finally emailed me back on July 3 (my wedding 7/7) advising me that she was finishing them up “now” and they would be delivered on Friday, the day before our wedding. We needed to be at the CC for rehearsal at 5:45; the UPS guy shows up to our house at 5:15, right as we were going to leave. So, this situation wasn’t SO bad, but it was stressful for about two weeks with not having any response from the shop owner – and so having been the first time I purchased something on Etsy – I was thinking we were going to be scammed and out of a few hundred bucks. But to our delight – the lady pulled through and they were worth the wait – our guests loved the homemade heart shaped bird seed/suet cakes.
Other than that, our DJ and photographer were AWESOME!
So happy to be married and no longer have to deal with all that crap! Sigh of relief. 🙂