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Definitely keep us posted. This is the first time I've stumbled on this thread. And I'm having trouble wrapping my thoughts around this ... that girl needs to go. And if that means FBIL goes, then well, so be it. Honestly. To me they both sound like a stupid immature couple. She needs b*tch slapped.
Can we get an update?
You should have never asked her to be MOH. And I think you should call FI's brother's bluff. See if he really will not be in the wedding without Betty.
I'd love to hear from Betty herself to see if she really is so terrible! I've honestly never met someone so terrible, so I don't know what to believe. But I don't think the dress and hair issues really make her a terrible person. I'm a huge fan of not forcing your bridesmaids to conform to your own likes and dislikes... afterall, you invite them to be BMs because you appreciate who they are... but obviously that's not what happened in this case...
On a side note... why isn't your BF who FI's brother cheated on with being blamed? Seriously?? She must have known the two of them were together... and did you already name Betty as your MOH as your BM at that point? How old is everyone involved??
Well if any luck the brother that cheated on her will dump her selfish but then it will be easy to dump her from the wedding . She sounds like a real pain n the rear. I believe Betty can be that horrible because i have a bridemaid that has done twice as much as Betty and she has been the friend for 15 years.
Wow. There are a lot of people at fault here, NOT just Betty. Betty's totally a MOHzilla, but if FBIL wasn't being such a p***y, this wouldn't be an issue. Unless he forced himself upon BFF, she most certainly did have a hand in it, and if he did, she needs to file charges. You didn't have to ask her, you could have just told FBIL to man up. I hope it works out for you, but everyone is in this situation because no one had the balls to say no.
What a nighmare, so sorry you have to deal with this. But I have to admit, the title of your post gave me a good chuckle.
So whose wedding is this anyway? First of all, someone (bride or groom) needed to tell the brother when he refused to be in the wedding without his crazy girlfriend, "Oh really? Well, I'm sorry you feel that way, we'll miss you." I think that demand was a total bluff and the brother would have eventually set his lunatic girlfriend straight and would have wanted to be in the wedding for his brother. Second, who replaces their best friend as MOH for someone they don't like? It doesn't sound like anyone has any backbone in this wedding to stand up for what they want.
I can't help but be reminded of a wedding I went to of the daughter of a friend of mine. It was a total disaster. One of the crazy bridesmaids got into a fight with a female guest who had once dated her boyfriend who was also a groomsman(the brides's brother). The female guest's father then got into a fight with the father of the bride who was trying to difuse the situation! The music stopped, everyone left to watch the chaos occuring outside, and the reception basically ended before the cake was even cut because everyone was embarassed for the bride. My friend (the mother of the bride) left in tears. All that planning, money, and hopes for a beautiful day was ruined by the selfishness of one crazy bridesmaid who the bride didn't want in the first place.
So, I haven't weighed in on this thread, but I keep coming back to it because of one nagging thought... so I'll share it.
I think it is fine to vent frustration and take the situation head on, but it makes me a little uncomfortable when there are threats of (even imaginary) violence... such as "I'll punch her."
Frustration should not beget threats of physical violence, in my opinion...
I agree 100 percent with Mrs. DG in that thought of not being down with even an inkling of implied violence towards anybody.
I will say that I would have never hurt my bff by not making her MOH and allowing somebody I didn't know well to fill that spot.
Wow! This situation is unreal. I think this has just snowballed into something so much bigger than it should have. I agree you never should have included this girl in your wedding, much less asked her to be MOH, but that's already been done and what you need to focus on now is the present. Somebody needs to step up and take control of this situation. That needs to either be yourself or your fiance. It doesn't seem to make sense to me that the Best Man would insist on this girl being in the wedding and then go and cheat on her with a bridesmaid. How much could his girlfriend really mean to him if he goes and cheats on her? With that said, why in the world would he even bluff about his place in the wedding? It's just strange.
I think you need to cut to the chase, sit down with your fiance and his brother and let him know you've had enough and this girl is no longer welcome in your wedding and after all the events that have happened, you expect him to understand your feelings on this. I can't imagine he wouldn't, but if he doesn't, I'm inclined to think Fiance's brother doesn't care about him all that much either and perhaps he doesn't belong in the wedding either. I'm hoping it doesn't come to that, but if it does...you have to ask yourself if these people really care about you and your Fiance and if the answer is "no" you need to do what's right for you and your big day.
If you seriously have thoughts of punching this girl, PLEASE just tell her she's no longer your MOH and call it a day. What a horrible memory that would be of what should be the most important day of your life. I'm sure you didn't work this hard on all the details and planning of your beautiful day, for it to wind up like that! It may not be easy, but this girl needs to go...PRONTO!
Ok so I've read like this while blog lol and would like an UPDATE!!!!!!!!!! How was the wedding? Was bitchy Betty involved? Did she ruin things for you OR did you kick her as* and tell her to get the f*uck out?!??! Let us know, girl!
Dude, kick her out. No question about it. She is crazy! And you shouldn't have to deal with that on your wedding day. She sounds like a bully!
So how'd it turn out, Natasha?! Did Betty stay in the party or did she get the boot?! (I'm hoping for the boot!)
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