Post # 1
In another thread where bee’s were discussing why they didn’t want kids, I noticed a few who said they “didn’t want to ruin thier vagina.”
So, Moms of the bee, here’s the TMI question: how different is your vagina after birth?
I have a real problem with the notion that childbirth ruins vaginas and sexlives- a lot more goes into good sex than a tight vag (which, btw, isn’t something all non-birthers have to begin with).
This topic was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by urchin.
Post # 2
It’s a long time since I had children but I can assure you that despite two natural births, everything went pretty much back to before. I took care to do my pelvic floor exercises after my sons were born and for sure, I never had any complaints about having a Grand Canyon sized clunge!
Post # 3
Mine’s exactly the same. But I did have a c section.
Post # 4
I can’t imagine that anyone’s sole reason for not having a child would be that they don’t want to ruin their vagina. If you tear during birth they stitch you up…I can’t imagine that it is going to be THAT different afterwards. haha
Post # 5
Looks and feels just fine. Totally back to normal! We DTD for the first time at 8 weeks PP and had no pain or anything.
Post # 6
JustMe12182: oh… there is a thread that made me surprised at just how many have that as a pretty strong reason.
Post # 8
Mine is the same. Promise.
Post # 9
I guess I should respond… lol
I’ve had one baby…with one on the way. Im a very petite girl.
I had a couple stitches after birth.
Pre birth, sex was frequently painful. Post birth I wouldnt say it is loose down there, but I no longer have painful sex- WIN!
DH is quite honest and says he feels no difference.
Post # 10
My fiance told me he didn’t think anything was different during sex (he’s pretty open and I think he would have told me) …and I can’t tell a difference. I didn’t need stitches or anything so maybe that helped?
Post # 11
To be honest mine is way different now . I am petite and my baby was kinda big for my body . I had a third degree tear and it went like to the side so now one labia minora is cut in half :/ and I was very tie before baby now is a little loose and because of the tear I havent been able to have sex from behind it is just too painful but before I didnt have a problem with that ..
Post # 12
My experience is exactly the same (although I’m not petit and I had quite a few stiches).
Post # 13
I’m very interested to see a large number of responses to this because it is something I am slightly concerned about. I’m really interested to hear other women’s perceptions; not their partners because I cannot really imagine when a man would tell his partner ‘honey, you just aren’t as tight as you were before birth’, as honest as he may be usually. I just think that is one sacred thing a man would never touch.
Post # 14
I had only a second degree tear, but I developed vaginismus after giving birth. My vagina was so tight we could not achieve penetration at all. I had to go to physical therapy and we weren’t able to have sex for over 6 months after the birth. Now, almost a year after the birth, sex is still uncomfortable for the first couple minutes, and I have to ‘warm myself up’ with a “dilator” (aka dildo). No spontaneity. It’s such a hassle we only do it once a week (that and being tired because baby). We think the quality of our sex is about 90% what it used to be. It could probably improve further if I spent more time on the exercises and stretching my physical therapist has told me to do, but I’m tired and lazy.
Post # 15
marjojo: Have you tried an estrogen cream? I had vaginismus when I was younger (before kids) and my OB prescribed me an etradiol cream that worked wonders for my problem!