S/O Moms: How's your vagina?

posted 2 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s a long time since I had children but I can assure you that despite two natural births, everything went pretty much back to before. I took care to do my pelvic floor exercises after my sons were born and for sure, I never had any complaints about having a Grand Canyon sized clunge!

Post # 3
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Mine’s exactly the same. But I did have a c section.

Post # 4
557 posts
Busy bee

I can’t imagine that anyone’s sole reason for not having a child would be that they don’t want to ruin their vagina. If you tear during birth they stitch you up…I can’t imagine that it is going to be THAT different afterwards. haha

Post # 5
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Looks and feels just fine. Totally back to normal! We DTD for the first time at 8 weeks PP and had no pain or anything.

Post # 7
4827 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

I’m curious about this!

Post # 8
4402 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Mine is the same. Promise. 

Post # 10
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My fiance told me he didn’t think anything was different during sex (he’s pretty open and I think he would have told me) …and I can’t tell a difference. I didn’t need stitches or anything so maybe that helped? 

Post # 11
44 posts

To be honest mine is way different now . I am petite and my baby was kinda big for my body . I had a third degree tear and it went like to the side so now one labia minora is cut in half :/ and I was very tie before baby now is a little loose and because of the tear I havent been able to have sex from behind it is just too painful but before I didnt have a problem with that ..  

Post # 12
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013


My experience is exactly the same (although I’m not petit and I had quite a few stiches).

Post # 13
483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’m very interested to see a large number of responses to this because it is something I am slightly concerned about. I’m really interested to hear other women’s perceptions; not their partners because I cannot really imagine when a man would tell his partner ‘honey, you just aren’t as tight as you were before birth’, as honest as he may be usually. I just think that is one sacred thing a man would never touch. 

Post # 14
594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I had only a second degree tear, but I developed vaginismus after giving birth. My vagina was so tight we could not achieve penetration at all. I had to go to physical therapy and we weren’t able to have sex for over 6 months after the birth. Now, almost a year after the birth, sex is still uncomfortable for the first couple minutes, and I have to ‘warm myself up’ with a “dilator” (aka dildo). No spontaneity. It’s such a hassle we only do it once a week (that and being tired because baby). We think the quality of our sex is about 90% what it used to be. It could probably improve further if I spent more time on the exercises and stretching my physical therapist has told me to do, but I’m tired and lazy.

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