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@MissDareDevil: Ahhh! We are inviting around 220 as well. My mom keeps saying that only 180 or so will come. My dad and I keep trying to bring her back to reality. I'm going to show her this post.
Holy cow!
We haven't gone through it yet, but based on the response to our STD's, I am very nervous. I hope you can figure it out; maybe reduce the number of passed appetizers and funnel those savings to the extra dinners? Slim down centerpieces? Go to wine & beer versus full open bar? I'm thinking ahead since I'm worried I'll be in your shoes in a few months. Good luck!
Ugghhh!!! That is a lot of money....I have a 220 people list....and hope 160 attend???? I might have to review my budget after this just in case!
Wow. I'll come dateless to help you out.
Sucks being popular doesn't it?
So far everyone has said yes for us too. But we didn't invite a lot in the first place. Just wait until the day of when like 5 people don't show up. I'm waiting for that to happen to us.
Wow almost unheard of, that's stinking crazy! We had the standard 20% not come
I am very surprised that that many people committed. I hope that that stands true though instead of you paying for them and then having no shows.
@xshellx2003: Ugggghhh. I will NOT be happy if that happens.
Or if this happens: At my cousin's wedding a few years ago a couple showed up without RSVPing. It was a semi-formal sit down dinner. They came in wearing jeans and like sports jerseys. The wait staff had to squeeze them in at a random table. It was awful.
WOW!! we have mostly out of town guests so we have gotten 10 nos so far and expecting more! im honestly glad that there are at least some nos!!
Thats amazing!!! on one hand it must make you smile to think of how important you and your FI are in everyone's lives!
@TinyTina: I hope people like that realize what an embarrassment they are. I also hope they realize how rude it as and they are embarrassed for their rude behavior.
oh no. now i'm scared. we had a full response for out stds but were hoping once the invites went out we'd have that 15-20% drop off...
259 people... and our ceremony spot only seats 200.. standing 220.
ipe!
@His Lil SantosGirl: Eeeep!! Here's hoping that doesn't happen to you. I was so worried about having too many people that I made sure we booked a venue that could hold 300 *just in case*. (Doesn't mean I want to pay for all those people though! :-P)
@MsBrooklynA: Ugh, I hope so too. I felt so bad for the Bride and Groom... :(
eghhhhhhhh! this is my fear too! But maybe some people who haven't rsvp'd will be no's?
Oh wow that totally scares me! We are inviting 235 and hoping only around 200 attend. Thats so crazy. I mean good to know you're both loved and everyone wants to celebrate with you though!
Uhm, not saying this to be mean or anyhting like that. I am genuinly curious! Why did you guys invite all these people if you can't or don't want to pay for them or/and can not seat all of them, haha? I mean is it because you didn't want to offend certain people by not inviting them? Again geniunly curious. Good luck to all of you though, I hope it turns out great!
We're hoping for some drop off too. Invited 244 - thinking about 190 will come. A lot of people are all over the country and won't drive 4 hours to attend so I think we'll hit the 190. More people attending = more money, but it's exciting that everyone wanted to come and share your day!
I am HOPING for a few no's, but we made sure we had enough room and can afford everyone invited. I dont like crowds, but getting into a Catolic large family. BUT I really wanted to invite ppl outside of my limit for my side. Family from other countries and others I know probably cant come because of health or income, but would appreciate the sentament.FIs side is 130, and with both of our friends, and my side it will be 70. I really would like 150.
My mom wanted to invite some because she knows they would probably send a gift, and I dont really like that idea.
Some ways you can make up for it is trimming down the general menu, taking off favors, trim center pieces, ect.
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I did have a friend though that had to trim her wedding by ALOT to afford it, and got almost 100% yes. 2/3 showed up. I got a call within an hour saying to come and bring their other friend to eat and drink it up. Sounds rude, but we arent best friends and I already told her to use me for her B list as I wasnt sure I would be in town. So if you really want to hope for less you can, but still be braced and willing for all of those yes' to show.
maybe it's the time of year that i am getting married, and everyone is just available to come.
but 220 is basically what we are getting. i would be prepared for that for your wedding, just in case.
i am freaking out!
@MissDareDevil: OR maybe people just love you and want to spend your special day with you :)
@MissDareDevil: Wow, it must feel great to be that loved but I can definitely see how that would be overwhelming! I definitely think if you scale back the alcohol that would help with the budget.
@SoonToBeMrs.Kiss: What I said was meant to be a joke!!! I have a huuuuge family and I love them all. I will be so happy if everyone we invite can come to our wedding, as I am inviting them to celebrate with them! But let's be honest... No one expects that every.single.person. can make it to your wedding. You always expect that a small percentage of people won't be able to come, so I'm sure it's shocking to see that only 2 people out of 220 aren't coming and to have to accommodate for that!
That is crazy!! Wow! We invited about 215 and we would have been SOL had everyone said yes because our venue only fit max 150! We ended up having only 130 people come which was the perfect amount. Do you think some of these people might just no-show?
Oh wow- hope that doesn't happen when we send our invitations out. Garrett & I have a list A and a list B....so we will base sending the additional list B invitations out if we have low reservations on the list a. BUT again, that is really hard due to the RSVP deadline and being proper. Ahhh, this is all crazy! Gotta find a method to the madness.
This is also my biggest fear! In some ways, it's great because it means that your guests care a lot about you and that you are a priority to them, but I definitely understand about it being expensive. I think we may just have to trim the guest list a bit from the start to avoid this. I'm sure you can make it work!
@MissDareDevil do you have mostly loca guests? we are also in a similar situation--inviting 215, ideally having no more than 175...but we have LOTS of out of towners
That's crazy! I have never heard of essentially everyone coming!
We're inviting just under 190, and I'm really hoping no more than 150 come. It's a holiday weeked with a lot of out of towners, so it should be possible, but your post just made me realize I should probably plan ahead!
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we have only gotten 1 "no."
I am completely shocked.
we really counted on some people saying no. we invited 220, but hoped that only 185 would come.
but, it looks like 218 people will be coming! only one couple has said no, because they will be in italy.
everyone else is coming, and bringing their kids, and bringing a date or spouse. it's giong to be madness!
i did not think that this would happen and am worrying that i can't pay for all the food and booze for these people. 35 people is a lot of money in the wedding world.
did anyone else go through anything like this?