So much has changed in the last 24 hours…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m so sorry that you and your family is going though such a difficult time. The importance of weddings are quite often a little blown out of proportion, when what really matters is the people involved. If down-scaling your wedding is what feels most natural at the moment, I’m sure that’s the best thing you can do. Just keep in mind, regardless of how big and grand it is you’ll still be husband and wife and that’s an amazing feeling!

Post # 4
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2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@stardustintheeyes:  Oh god, I’m so sorry. Emotionally, I bet you are being pulled in a million different directions right now. The thing that concerns me is that it almost sounds like you don’t want to let yourself feel happy or excited about your upcoming wedding because your family is going through something incredibly sad at the same time. You ARE allowed to be happy.

I think it is great that you are able to recognize what matters to you the most. It sounds like you have an amazing partner by your side, and getting married is the most important part of the whole wedding ordeal. But please, don’t put your feelings in a box and lock them away somewhere…. allow yourself to experience the whole gamut of emotions. Be sad and supportive of your godmother and enjoy the time that she has left, and be thankful for your family and your FI, and excited that you are starting a new life together. Allow yourself to have the full experience.

Big hugs!

Post # 5
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2571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I am so sorry you’re going through all of this, but I do hope that you’ll allow yourself some happiness on your wedding day.  I think your godmother would want that for you. Big hugs to you!

Post # 6
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5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@stardustintheeyes:  Big hugs girl.  I’m so sorry this is happening, but you’re right- it does put things into perspective.  Your wedding will be beautiful because of the love and support you share with your FI and your guests.  Life is way too short to sweat the small stuff.

Also, it’s completely ok to run a bubble bath, grab a glass of wine and a chocolate bar, soak in the tub and bawl your eyes out.  

Post # 7
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2912 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Oh your poor thing. I’m so sorry your family friend is going through this. I’m also sorry you feel it makes your wedding feel unimportant. Your wedding is very important no matter what is happening. It’s very exciting, and I know it’s going to be beautiful. I know you are sad but you are allowed to feel happy too.

Post # 9
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849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@stardustintheeyes:  *HUGS* ach my dear, I wish I had something clever to say. I am so sorry about your aunt.

Post # 12
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2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@stardustintheeyes:  We are scaling our wedding back big time as well, not because anything in particular has happened but more because we have realized that it isn’t about the food and the booze and the chair covers at all. We just want to be married! I’m glad that you’re happy with your decision. That’s what matters 🙂

Post # 15
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@stardustintheeyes:  I’m glad to hear you are focused on the important part – being his wife – rather than the wedding part (which is not the part that will last). That is exactly why I am eloping, and I also have a sick family member (my dad) who I am trying to cater to.

It is never easy, but I stay focused on the only thing that matters – being together!

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