Post # 1
I’ve been waiting to write this post just so I could keep it to myself for a bit, but I’m really thinking an engagement is definite now. It’s always been “definite” that we would get married, but more in a it-just-makes-sense way than any specific conversations or plans. Marriage talk was practically off limits for the first 5.75 years because it would always end in him not promising anything and me crying and feeling rejected. We just did not understand where each other was coming from & he was just not ready, it had nothing to do with me or us. We’ve been making lots of progress & he agreed with my timeline of September so we’re settled on that, but I was still so used to marriage being an elusive idea.
So this past weekend, I squeal and talk about marriage, houses, puppies, and babies like usual and he’s totally into it & egging me on, like usual (one little caution about “pressure” but Mr. Hedgie cleared that up for me). Then we’re talking about going into a business together and he says something like “It’ll be so neat to have John* and Lauren HisLastName Company.” OMG!!!!! I got all excited and was like “you said it!! not me!!” and he said he knew I would like that and he looked so cute and excited! Later, I reiterated my desired wedding date, May 2012, and he did not rule it out, which he would have no problem doing if it wasn’t reasonable! He said something like “we’ll see” which is basically a yes for him.
Holy crap bees, I think he could really stick to our timeline and I could really be engaged by this fall!!!! WHOA! I knew 2011 was going to be a good year, and it’s our 6th year together which is a beautiful even number (shh, I know I’m crazy)!
*name has been changed 🙂
Post # 3
WOOOHOOOOOOOOO!!! You must be sooo excited!!!! 6 years is a long time, I give you credit for not cracking haha 🙂 Does he already know what kind of ring you want? hehe
Post # 4
@nikkiinmass: Haha thanks! It was hard, and I’ve had my cracking moments; but he always put me back together even if it was difficult. I really wouldn’t have it any other way and I really wasn’t ready previously even though I thought I was.
He knows that I want my Engagement Ring it to be with citrine & clear quartz that we found gem mining, platinum or white gold, and then upgrade to a diamond on our 5th wedding anniversary. We’ve had a couple talks about it, but we’ve never looked at rings except one time I showed him an Etsy store with rings I loved. I just don’t care too much about jewelry.. shocking, I know!
Post # 5
Oh yay that’s great news! I know exactly what you mean about not being quite able to believe it’s actually going to happen! Especially when it’s been an idea in your head for so long… I’m hoping for a May 2012 wedding too so hopefully we both get it!
Post # 6
@LaurenK0105: That’s so exciting!!! I’m thrilled for you! Also, your story sounds a bit similar to mine… This year is our 6th year, and lately (after not being able to say that we will get married with any certainty) he’s been talking about reason why we SHOULD get married 🙂 Isn’t it so wonderful to FINALLY be moving forward?! (Also, reading what you wrote makes me think I should bring up my ideal wedding date of June 2012… our timelines are so alike!)
Post # 7
I love the number 6- can’t wait til he proposes!
Post # 8
@ruby26: We’re almost waiting twins! It’s so nice to know someone else who has that experience of marriage not being certain when it’s so obvious it should be. This was not the first time I brought up the ideal wedding time, but it was the first time he said anything that resembled an agreement. The last time I got a look and an “it’s not surprising,” whatever the hell that means!
Let me know what happens if you decide to bring it up!
@MrsT2b: Yea I hope to see you on the May 2012 boards sometime this year! Though I could be swayed to June since that would be all even numbers… I’m so crazy!
Post # 9
@LaurenK0105: Haha don’t worry I’m crazy about numbers too… I like May 2012 because it would mean our wedding date would be symetrical- 12.5.12 (I live in the UK and we write our dates: day/month/year)
Post # 10
yyay, crossing my fingers for you! it’s so exciting when we feel progress has been made, isn’t it? i was practically jumping up and down when my bf said, “mid year” which then became “june” (which is also his birthday month). he goes, “but that doesn’t mean that’s when i am gonna give it to you!” and i said, “when you finally get the damn thing don’t torture me!” lol. he knows i want our engagement party in september so he better get a move on 🙂
congrats, i hope it happens soon for both of us!
Post # 11
So happy for you! Good Luck! **crosses fingers**