Post # 1
So my friend cancelled his wedding two weeks prior, they were supposed to get married this Sunday. He made the right decision and he knows it so hes doing just fine. He couldn’t get the deposits back from the reception site and entertainment company so decided to throw a party instead!
Now my question is, should I bring him a gift? He was quite generous at my wedding just a little over a year ago, and his wedding cost him a lot of money (3ct ring, castle reception, you get the idea). I don’t know what the other guests will do and I don’t want to make anyone look bad either, so should I just mailed him a card before the event? Thanks!
Post # 3
i’d maybe bring him a bottle of wine? or a bottle of great scotch and some lo boys, but leave it in the car just in case no one else brings anything and you can go to the car with an oh dang i forgot the gift in the car type deal and later on perhaps give him the gift…
Post # 4
Sorry I wasn’t clear, I meant a gift like a check.
Post # 5
I think bringing him a bottle of something, scotch might be good, and then having a night out with a bunch of people would be justttt what he needs! don’t worry about what other guests are doing, if you feel comfortable giving him something in person (for some reason I think in person is better then mailed, if you live close by) then go for it.
Post # 6
ohh. I think that might be a bit awkward or inappropriate, giving him some money ot cover the expenses. But if he has mentioned something about his financial pressures, then it might not be a bad idea.
Post # 7
hmmm thats tough but I’m glad he made the right decision. I would think a gift specifically set out to make him relax especially during such a rough time would be great. How about a gift certificate for massage, a day of golf or his favorite sport, something you know he would like but would never spend the money for it.
Good luck. Let me know what you end up doing
Post # 8
No check, but a bottle of good alcohol would be nice.
Post # 9
That’s cool he’s still throwing a party! Definiely a boy gift like nice scotch is appreciated. Not sure a gift is really necessary, but he’ll take it as a nice act of friendship and not read into it all intensely the way a chick would =]
Post # 10
I’m not sure a check would be appropriate…. But I like the idea of getting him a bottle of something, or a gift certificate for a massage.
Post # 11
And @ejs – good scotch is most certainly not a boy gift. Anyone wishing to gift me a nice bottle of scotch, please feel free 🙂
Post # 12
ok so no check. i’ll save that for when he gets married for real. thanks guys!
Post # 13
I agree that giving him money would be kind of awkward. I think alcohol is the way to go (provided he is legal of course).
Post # 14
hey man, after cancelling a wedding, i think anyone deserves a shot, legal or not!!
Post # 15
I definitely wouldn’t give him money. It’s no longer a wedding, so a “man” gift seems entirely appropriate here. I LOVE the scotch idea. Maybe a massage gift certificate? This has got to be very stressful for him. Sporting event tickets? Anything that will lift his spirits and cater to his specific needs.